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PalaBeo
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Anyone who had such experiences: Me and my bf just *half broke-up* that means we think it might be better for both of us to let each other alone for a while. I still love him very very much, and I guess he does too. The problem is we both do have to focus more on our school stuff 'cause we've delayed our study because of the relationship. Priorities should always be put forward. I wonder if there's still any possibilies for us to be together again and does this count a real break-up?? I'm sooooooo lost and upset at the moment. 
So guys, I think I need your help. What will you do or what do you think if you're invovled in such a relationship?
Thanks a lot!!! I appreciate!!!!!! |
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Edgewood
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Feb 16, 2005 - 06:05 PM |
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hahahahahahahahah! |
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PalaBeo
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Feb 16, 2005 - 07:44 PM |
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@Edgewood:
What do you mean by "hahhahahahhahah"  hun???? Is that your relationship??
Anyway, thank you for the reply! I do feel better now. Nothing at all is really serious, since you can overlook this by "hahahahaha"...  |
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gfo68
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Feb 16, 2005 - 11:27 PM |
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Dunno what Edgewood means, but I am always looking for a *half relationship* as long as its the good half. |
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Edgewood
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Feb 17, 2005 - 12:28 AM |
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Funniest thing I've read in days! |
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Rio
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Feb 17, 2005 - 06:11 AM |
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Are you guys having a break?
"We were on a BREAK!" |
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Feb 17, 2005 - 08:25 AM |
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oh Edgewood be nice, she is obviously young and upset and at a loss at what to do next. all i can tell you is that things will get better, you
haven't totally given up and are just going through a rough patch.
and good luck finding a sympathetic ear hear, we are all way more f*cked up than you are. its like the mentally retarded blind leading the blind. |
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Magnolia
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Feb 17, 2005 - 09:42 AM |
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IF the decision has been reached to focus on your education for the time being, then do that. Make the most of it. Don't become too attached yet. There is a wide world out there ... explore and see what is there.
Loads of couples do this type of thing. Some wind up back together full time, all the better for having taken some individual space. Others find that what they thought was the real thing really isn't.
Doesn't stop it from hurting right now, but it will get better. Does this separation have a time frame? Is there a set time that you will get together and re-discuss things? Sometimes that can make a difference.
I hate, hate, hate, to mention this... but it should be brought up. On some ocassions, one half of a couple may suggest a temporary separation as a way of easing out of a relationship. Especially when young. Do you have fears that this is what is happening? If so, confront your boyfriend for the truth ... there is no reason to prolong pain, even though he may think he is letting you down more easily. |
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Nathalie25
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Feb 17, 2005 - 09:42 AM |
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PalaBeo,
If I were you, then I would take my time to think about that what I could do then it can make myself better to comfort my heart.
But unfortunately, i am not a guy.......................  |
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n00b
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Feb 17, 2005 - 01:30 PM |
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take the opportunity to see other people...
you might never get another chance to be in a half-relationship, make good use of the opportunity. |
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xtina
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Feb 17, 2005 - 04:59 PM |
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If you guys still love each other like you said, why don't you just reschedule instead of an abrupt break up? Reduce the time you go out and work harder in school. You can actually motivate and inspire each other if you handle the situation in a different approach. |
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Rio
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Feb 17, 2005 - 05:43 PM |
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Seriously PalaBeo, theres nothing, at least not for me, something like 'half broke up'. Either you're pregant or you're not. Get the point? You can study and have a relationship. What about when you both have a job? Then your married and then what? You half split up cuz you have other priorities? Love should be one of your top priorities! |
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PalaBeo
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Feb 18, 2005 - 05:22 PM |
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Thank you guys for reply!!!! Love ya lots!!!!
So we guys just broke up. He lives in America while I'm in Shanghai. It hurts me when he said he acually needed someone who he can touch and see every day. Besides, he's deplayed his study 'cause we talked too much and talking has become addiction. So long distance relationship never work rite?? How naive of us that we were trying to prove people wrong. The first day after we broke up, i could hardly resist the days but things are working better now. YES, RIO you are right. There's nothing. We are young and both deserve to have fun. There are many many guys out there for me and I'm not built only for him. It would suck if he goes out with other girls while I'm still with him across the freaking globe. Now I'm a 11th grader and study to try to get into an american college. He promised that we would definately be together again if I succeed in studying in the US 'cause he still cares about me. There's still 1.5 years left. I wouldn't blame him if can't hold his words. I'll understand tho still I love him so much.
So you guys helped me alot!!! Thank you very very much!!!! Muahz!!! |
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Rio
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Feb 18, 2005 - 06:14 PM |
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He promised that we would definately be together again if I succeed in studying in the US 'cause he still cares about me. There's still 1.5 years left. I wouldn't blame him if can't hold his words. I'll understand tho still I love him so much.
So you guys helped me alot!!! Thank you very very much!!!! Muahz!!! |
This promise of him is crap!!! Just get rid of this loser, sorry to say this, but of course I would want you back if you could succeed and make loads of money bla bla bla....blablabla...
The fact that his love for you is to weak to overcome the distance means that he can pull this trick again and again.
Get on with your life, let him be the loser he is and be successful and let him eat shiet. |
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itv1980
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Feb 18, 2005 - 07:01 PM |
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Mostly I'm very happy when seeing the light points, but in this case I have to agree with Rio here.
Would be together when he made the fortunes, sure when does that happen, YOU really that naive he'll just sit and don't meet other people. Come on his in a different society and world and sees other classmates, goes to bars etc.
Of course he'll say he cares for you, your an easy victim of being his backup, when he can't score in the US he always have you waiting.
Go out, explore meet others and don't pin yourself on the first attempts of your way on the battlefield of love. So much more to learn, explore and when you really meet then ONE then you'll know when you both look in each others eyes.
Have to type it again: defenately together when succeed in US and care for you |
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PalaBeo
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Feb 19, 2005 - 01:12 AM |
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Sounds like I'm such a miserable little lamb! Yea people change always and I doubt whether he's good enough to hold his words. He used to light up my life and give me confidence in everything I did. School restarts on 20th and I need motives to go on with my study. That explains why I'd rather believe in him though I know he might change as well.
Maybe I'm still not mature enough to deal with everything without a boyfriend. That sounds silly but I do focus on my study better when I have a bf.
I need to be more independant I guess but this takes some time. Or I can have another new nice bf!! |
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Rio
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Feb 19, 2005 - 02:18 AM |
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No, dont think about a new bf, its not an objective as such. If it makes u feel happy, why not, but dont look for it, it will come eventually. Study, have fun, do things with friends and do not search for a bf, you can do without it for a while. |
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PalaBeo
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Feb 19, 2005 - 11:59 AM |
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How comes I was so stupid. I have friends!!! Muahz!!!
You know, he-go-out-with-his-friend-on-Vday is probably the signal of our break-up. I know she's just his good friend, but how ridiculous it was that she gave him a pretty purple shirt while he got her a box of chocolate for Vday presents?! This made THEM look like a couple.
I am sick to see he left comments on HIS FRIEND's page while nothing on mine; I am sick to see he pasted HIS FRIEND's pic in a post with the word "beauty"; I am sick to see he's like telling everyone that he had the best Vday ever with HIS FRIEND. I must say I'm so jealous of his friend.
I hate to say this but I do have little confidence in him now no matter how I used to trust him.
It sucks when I think of this. |
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farang
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Feb 19, 2005 - 02:35 PM |
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Long distance relationships never work out unless there's a concrete plan to be together in the (not-so-distant future). As someone else said, you're either dating or you're not- sounds like he likes another gal and wants to rid himself of guilt by 'half breaking up' so he can fall back to you if things don't work out.
My advice: find someone here. |
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Rio
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Feb 19, 2005 - 09:58 PM |
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My advice dont find someone here, let it rest for a while, just focus on studying, on your friends and have fun. Oh yeah, and ignore your ex-bf, cuz he's a prick. |
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PalaBeo
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Feb 20, 2005 - 12:21 AM |
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lol O yea he deserves an ignorance!!!
Well...I'm thinking of him again!***Sigh*** |
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Rio
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Feb 20, 2005 - 01:00 AM |
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Think of that thing in your avatar spanking ur buttoms, dont think of him  |
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itv1980
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Feb 21, 2005 - 03:29 PM |
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Do some things you like to do with friends, always helps me when I'm sad  good luck and in every event there's always a good thing.
The sun is always there, even you can't see it because of the clouds/rain its there |
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PalaBeo
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Feb 22, 2005 - 10:01 AM |
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I got new problems.
He called me yesterday and told me he wanted me back. God! Was he fooling me???!!!!! I can't afford another pain if he wants to break up with me again in the future!! I wanted to turn it down but you know, I just can't resist him. He's a hottie, cutie and sweetie. Jesus!!! How can I think of this!!!! Gosh!!! I still love him. |
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Magnolia
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Feb 22, 2005 - 10:45 AM |
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Turn him down. He's not worth it. Tell him to go after his Valentine's Day friend since they had such a perfect day together. You can do better than game players like him. |
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