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itv1980

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Posted: Apr 25, 2005 - 04:50 PM
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Attention, men! 5 signs that she's into you
By Matt Christensen
Taken from: http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=3638&articleSrc=2&lid= 159

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out
What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips
What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair
What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you
What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t.

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer.

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Posted: Apr 26, 2005 - 06:36 PM

And when you notice one of those 5 signs, what should you do?

Obviously you're a babe magnet like fukuman, some people have all the luck, but what do you have to do when you're a simple soul like the most of us and you want to become a babe magnet?

So what does attract women? And how do you do it exactly?
If you want to make her interested don’t try to manipulate her with buying her food, drinks, kissing her ass all the time, giving her compliments. Just impress her with your character. And everyone who tells you to 'just be yourself' when dating girls, If you were never successful with woman you like 'how can being yourself help you? It won’t.

And if you think and believe that you aren’t cool, smooth interesting to girls, you will never get the girls you want. Get over it and be a man and reprogram yourself. When you were born, you were nothing more but an empty paper, through your life that paper will get filled with knowledge and experiences.

If you aren’t satisfied with yourself you have to change yourself in a good way. And you are probably already doing that because otherwise you wouldn’t read this. Unless you just read it for fun or to stay sharp and focussed because you are already successful with women you are interested in. If you don't have much confidence with woman due to insecurity or shyness. Imagine you are a tiger or lion and you are going to attack a prey. It would be a bit silly if you are afraid of the prey? Think yourself as the king of the world, but only output it as confidence to the world around you, don't act like one. If you look at certain movies, for example James Bond you will see that he doesn't act like he's the king of the world, what he showcases is confidence. Same counts for russel crow in Gladiator.

When you have changed yoursef in a good way, you can be your new self Wink

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 - 02:19 PM

Quote: Obviously you're a babe magnet like fukuman, some people have all the luck,

This is one of the most hilarious things a person has called me Laughing

I rather not comment on this one Mr. Green

but thank you for giving me a good laugh

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 - 06:08 PM

Uh it wasnt directed on you, typing error, 'if' should have fitted between 'obviously' and 'you're', foutje bedankt.

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 - 07:43 PM

What does it mean when she hacks up a snot ball and spits it at your feet?

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Posted: Apr 29, 2005 - 07:46 PM

Does it mean she's not impressed by my marmot imitation?
I always thought that courtship dance was a little over the top, especially the part when you bite her on the scruff of the neck and start making squeeky noises.