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sylvie_ng
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Aug 21, 2005 - 08:59 AM |
 
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Can a man change ?
A man attracted by Chinese women (no matter if they're pretty or not, just Chinese) and playing a lot, but would like to change and stay with only one woman and marry her>>> would that be possible?
Can a person change like this or would it be only for a while and then go on?H |
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DragonAss
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Aug 21, 2005 - 09:33 AM |
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if only all the other women on planet dissapeared... even so, they then'd go to another planet en find some girlie apes |
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sylvie_ng
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Aug 21, 2005 - 10:18 AM |
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thanks. I know that but need really to understand it!  |
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Nathalie25
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Joined: Aug 24, 2004
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Location: Shanghai
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Aug 21, 2005 - 10:43 AM |
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| sylvie_ng wrote: |
Can a man change ?
A man attracted by Chinese women (no matter if they're pretty or not, just Chinese) and playing a lot, but would like to change and stay with only one woman and marry her>>> would that be possible?
Can a person change like this or would it be only for a while and then go on?H |
I don't like people who always boast himself about how many chinese women that he has been attracted by them frequently.
sylvie_ng, I think no chinese women would like to live together or get married with you when you plays them here. You are a poor love dreamer !!!!!! |
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sylvie_ng
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Aug 21, 2005 - 07:21 PM |
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Dear Nathalie25,
Are you a man? no otherwise, please change your login.
Can you read the topic and not try to change it and attack like that!!
I'm a woman and no lesbian so yes, I won't marry or live with a Chinese woman. ...please read and understand first |
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Henry_Chinaski
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Joined: Aug 16, 2003
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Aug 21, 2005 - 09:37 PM |
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No sylvie, man can't change. Never. Ever. Unfortunately sexual/domination instincts most times overwhelm any scripted behaviour/norms (marriage) that we might have that would prevent men from being idiots. The only solution is a combination of luck, planet alignment and total commitment that would make a man be utterly in total love and hence total (destructive and sometimes MUTUALLY destructive) dependence. But it happens.
Having a relationship/life based on ethernal questioning if he will ever fall back again on the merry go round of chinese woman is like building a mansion on top of a volcano. It might never erupt again, but hey, who wants to play the odds?
Just my two cents after being in a wedding yesterday. |
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wingman2
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Aug 21, 2005 - 10:24 PM |
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| Henry_Chinaski wrote: |
No sylvie, man can't change. Never. Ever. Unfortunately sexual/domination instincts most times overwhelm any scripted behaviour/norms (marriage) that we might have that would prevent men from being idiots. The only solution is a combination of luck, planet alignment and total commitment that would make a man be utterly in total love and hence total (destructive and sometimes MUTUALLY destructive) dependence. But it happens.
Having a relationship/life based on ethernal questioning if he will ever fall back again on the merry go round of chinese woman is like building a mansion on top of a volcano. It might never erupt again, but hey, who wants to play the odds?
Just my two cents after being in a wedding yesterday. |
On the contrary...I believe men CAN change. I agree that we have this sexual (animal) instinct/desire built in us through evolution, but nevertheless it is POSSIBLE to be loyal to one partner. It all DEPENDS on the guy.
He can have 16 HOT LOOKING SEX CRAZED babes going after him, but if he shows disinterest what can they do...NOTHING!
I know a friend who was outright a skirt-chaser. Had no problems getting into the pants of hot girls. Then he met his current wife...and WHAMM - LOVE hits him and hits him HARD! Its like...the SNAKE has been TAMED!  She is his ONE and ONLY and we guys can see this.
So it all depends on the guy you're dealing with.
Well, this is MY opinion...if you agree CooL...if not... just as CooL.
Free world. |
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sylvie_ng
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Aug 21, 2005 - 10:31 PM |
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Thanks. I guess both of you are right...who knows! well, maybe the solution can be : be far from Shanghai and its temptations..
i'm cool now, got my answer |
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Nathalie25
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Aug 22, 2005 - 09:33 AM |
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Dear Nathalie25,
Are you a man? no otherwise, please change your login.
Can you read the topic and not try to change it and attack like that!!
I'm a woman and no lesbian so yes, I won't marry or live with a Chinese woman. ...please read and understand first |
yes, i am a "man", that's why i always wear my t-shirt and jeans here.  |
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Henry_Chinaski
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Aug 22, 2005 - 12:50 PM |
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"I know a friend who was outright a skirt-chaser. Had no problems getting into the pants of hot girls. Then he met his current wife...and WHAMM - LOVE hits him and hits him HARD! Its like...the SNAKE has been TAMED! Laughing She is his ONE and ONLY and we guys can see this"
Hey wingman nice one. I guess that is the equivalent of "The only solution is a combination of luck, planet alignment and total commitment that would make a man be utterly in total love and hence total (destructive and sometimes MUTUALLY destructive) dependence. But it happens."
Good luck sylvie. |
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itv1980
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Aug 22, 2005 - 01:14 PM |
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Men can indeed change but only if they want to change themself. If not then its like talking to a brick wall, nothing ever happens |
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Icay
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Aug 22, 2005 - 01:22 PM |
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YES,I agree with henry. If u get some hesitation in the relationship, make decison before two of you both so sure of the relationship. Everyone can meet their Mr/Miss right. Just be patient. |
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SirFiddler
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Aug 22, 2005 - 01:28 PM |
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once a player always a player...
and what's wrong with that ? |
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Nathalie25
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Aug 22, 2005 - 02:52 PM |
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I would never do the job of trying to change the personalities of some guy here. I would rather to spend my time to think about what I can do when I cannot pass my maths exam from that terrible institute. And if I met a guy which could change me from a ladyboy to a professional & successful business woman, then I would share my all to him, but I only meet some Pluto guys here, so no time to ask the other to change any personalities or something like that to please him here. |
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Anniboodk
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Aug 22, 2005 - 03:43 PM |
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^^^Nathalie, sweetie, did you actually write this??? Please explain to me why in the world someone would/how in the world someone could change you from a ladyboy to a professional & successful business woman?? |
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Nathalie25
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Aug 22, 2005 - 04:11 PM |
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Hum, someone tells me that when i act something in here, i just like a man, not a girl, so they call me ladyboy........... |
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Anniboodk
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Aug 22, 2005 - 04:14 PM |
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oh, I see now... |
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Nathalie25
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Aug 22, 2005 - 07:30 PM |
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what did you mean, anniboodk ? ? I wish you would not think me as a ladyboy here. ......  |
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SirFiddler
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Aug 22, 2005 - 08:10 PM |
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maybe you meant tomboy, rather than ladyboy |
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MichaelT
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Aug 22, 2005 - 11:03 PM |
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Typical female domination.. and manipulation.. to expect/wait/take action for a man to change.
No!! men will not change nor do we want to change for you.
We are who we are and that applies to women too.
If you like someone you have to accept everything that they are. It is unhealthy to expect you can simply change your less perfect mate into the perfect one. |
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DragonAss
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Aug 23, 2005 - 02:08 AM |
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People change, that's the universal rule. Men change, but they keep changing that you would lose track which change they wear you wish to have...  |
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DragonAss
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Aug 23, 2005 - 02:10 AM |
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Better dont wish anyone would eventually change for you, take it from me!! It's like wondering when moon would finally fall into your plams... |
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Nathalie25
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Aug 23, 2005 - 07:26 AM |
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| MichaelT wrote: |
Typical female domination.. and manipulation.. to expect/wait/take action for a man to change.
No!! men will not change nor do we want to change for you.
We are who we are and that applies to women too.
If you like someone you have to accept everything that they are. It is unhealthy to expect you can simply change your less perfect mate into the perfect one. |
then i would rather do my maths practices here, not to date with anyone in this evil city. |
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Anniboodk
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Aug 23, 2005 - 08:39 AM |
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| what did you mean, anniboodk ? ? I wish you would not think me as a ladyboy here. ...... |
Nathalie, don't worry, I don't think you are a ladyboy. I've met you!
One more thing, I would agree with you, perhaps you need to spend more time focusing on your studies (math, mainly ). You still seem quite hurt from your previous relationship and perhaps just aren't ready to start a new one yet. |
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Magnolia
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Aug 23, 2005 - 11:37 AM |
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People can change if they want to change. If they are forced to change, then the change either will not stick or resentment will stem from being forced.
You know, heard a saying on some television show a while ago... something about men are like traffic lights. if they have the red light on, then they are out for a good time and a party. if the orange light is on, then they are thinking about setttling down and may do more than just play the field. when the green light goes on, then they are ready to get married and will make an effort to meet the person they are going to marry (if they haven't already done so)... Basically, it is saying that it comes down to the timing and what is happening in his life. |
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