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ilovewhiteguys
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Jan 31, 2007 - 12:20 PM |
 
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My ex decided to come to SH after the CNY celebration.
Initially we planned on venturing into some art-based business as he is really good at them. I am like, "fine! Do come, and we will talk more about it when you are here. You can stay at my place for sometime. "
Not so long ago, we had a chat and apparently he is up to more than just business. He asked if I am seeing someone else at the moment and spoke about wanted to have a gf and how much he remembered the wonderful time we spent together.
I freaked out!
This sudden news turned everything planned upside down. I didnt want him to come and get back together with me.
My question is, should I tell him now, that I cant be with him anymore? Or should I tell him in person when I am back during CNY holidays?
The only concern about this is he is under some emotional breakdown right now, seems like things are not working well for him at where he is. |
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beachgirl
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Joined: Aug 29, 2006
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Jan 31, 2007 - 12:26 PM |
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Isn't he your ex?
Ex mean history, past, over, done, been there.....................unless you want to reopen your X file again. |
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maries
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Joined: Nov 28, 2005
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Location: shanghai pudong
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Jan 31, 2007 - 01:03 PM |
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Tell him right now! |
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jzzzzzzz
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Joined: July 07, 2006
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Jan 31, 2007 - 02:04 PM |
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He is probably expecting some Ex Sex. |
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brasil
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Joined: July 17, 2006
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Jan 31, 2007 - 04:15 PM |
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Fathai
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Feb 01, 2007 - 03:36 PM |
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It depends who broke up with who!
If you still have feelings for him then you can go back to him but you may also know that he may broke up again (if he is the one who broke up!).
It doesnt depend on him...it depends on you...
You said YOU FREAKED OUT then tell him you dont want to get back with him! Its so simple! |
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lalaabc321
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Feb 01, 2007 - 03:51 PM |
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leave him if he treat you badly before
otherwise
just like an old friend |
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ilovewhiteguys
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Joined: Sep 23, 2006
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Feb 01, 2007 - 05:25 PM |
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Fathai: I left him a year ago, didnt go through the official break-up thing, but its obvious enough ( as I also left the country)
Didnt keep in contact for quite sometime, but 6 months ago we started talking, and eventually became the best of best buddy ( He agreed on that too!)
I cannot accept him in any other way but just buddies.
He had a gf for a short while but brokeup lately as he didnt find anything common between them, and told me he misses the moment we spent together.
He wanted to come so badly, as he needed to find himself once again ( sound like he's lost??!!??)
I dont mind him staying for a short while but it might turn bad and I never want to ruin this friendship. |
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lucyna
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Joined: Aug 03, 2006
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Feb 02, 2007 - 09:48 AM |
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^ I am sure you know what to do.  |
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Fathai
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Feb 02, 2007 - 11:07 AM |
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You are not responsible for him.
Dont ask him to go to your place I think he can find an accomodation by himself.
Dont be too nice with people! |
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Magnolia
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Joined: June 01, 2004
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Feb 02, 2007 - 12:13 PM |
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if your concern is for his well-being, then keep it there. just because he may be in a slump doesnt' mean you need to coddle him. you can treat him as a friend without leading him on or allowing him to think you are the cure for his problems. if that proves to be too difficult, then simply explain to him that getting back together will never be an option. |
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Macpod
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Feb 02, 2007 - 12:27 PM |
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| ilovewhiteguys wrote: |
Fathai: I left him a year ago, didnt go through the official break-up thing, but its obvious enough ( as I also left the country)
Didnt keep in contact for quite sometime, but 6 months ago we started talking, and eventually became the best of best buddy ( He agreed on that too!)
I cannot accept him in any other way but just buddies.
He had a gf for a short while but brokeup lately as he didnt find anything common between them, and told me he misses the moment we spent together.
He wanted to come so badly, as he needed to find himself once again ( sound like he's lost??!!??)
I dont mind him staying for a short while but it might turn bad and I never want to ruin this friendship. |
Did you get all this information from him? Im a lying bastard and i know im no where near as bastardly as most guys.
don't believe him. |
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Magnolia
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Joined: June 01, 2004
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Feb 02, 2007 - 01:06 PM |
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He wanted to come so badly, as he needed to find himself once again ( sound like he's lost??!!??)
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missed this on the first read...
there is probably more truth in the statement then you realize... |
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Cereal-Killer
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Feb 02, 2007 - 02:27 PM |
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Magnolia
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Feb 02, 2007 - 02:30 PM |
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...and quite often fun.
but ugh... soooooooo ick, squirmy, uncomfortable the next day.
moral? leave directly after. |
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Cereal-Killer
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Feb 02, 2007 - 02:40 PM |
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squirmy? well if its been a while it can be more than a spoonful so it might get a bit squirmy, specially ex-sex do not usually use rubbers.. |
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UK_Bloke
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Joined: Feb 20, 2006
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Feb 02, 2007 - 10:33 PM |
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| Ex-sex is so easy sex... |
ex-sex-ly  |
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UK_Bloke
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Feb 02, 2007 - 10:37 PM |
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| squirmy? well if its been a while it can be more than a spoonful so it might get a bit squirmy, specially ex-sex do not usually use rubbers.. |
could turn into messy water sports  |
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guel27
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Feb 03, 2007 - 07:06 PM |
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the sooner the better |
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ilovewhiteguys
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Feb 04, 2007 - 06:21 PM |
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Have to admit the Ex-sex idea came more than once. As per Mag's :
....but ugh... soooooooo ick, squirmy, uncomfortable the next day.
moral? leave directly after.
Exactly why we cant have it if he's staying for more than a week!
Call me lame but I wrote him a letter to clear this issue. Suppose its better to keep him from bringing this any further
So, no! NO EX-SEX. |
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lalaabc321
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Feb 05, 2007 - 12:38 PM |
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it's just like the return of the sperman
u get lost...and... |
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after27
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Feb 20, 2007 - 03:57 PM |
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ilovewhiteguys, any updates? |
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Ms.Incrediable
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Feb 20, 2007 - 10:18 PM |
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| ilovewhiteguys, any updates? |
Any updates? |
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Nathalie25
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Joined: Aug 24, 2004
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Feb 21, 2007 - 08:47 PM |
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to tell your ex that u will be happy to be friends with him, even you have already had a "new boyfriend" ~~~~~~~~~~~ |
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Goosie
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Feb 22, 2007 - 08:54 PM |
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Jesus Christ! You guys are taking seriously a post by someone who calls herself "ilovewhiteguys"? I mean, really. What are you thinking??? |
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