MY Dilemma
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chamaflauge
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Right now I'm at a luxury suite in Bangkok Thailand. Home of the never ending smile. I need your help people. Although I think I already know the answer.
I met this Shanghai girl two weeks ago on the net. When I first met her she was perfect. Intelligent, beautiful, and pretty well off. She works at one of these top accounting firms in Shanghai so she makes a pretty penny per month. Well beyond my meager teacher 12'000 a month salary.
The first two dates were excellent and I wanted her to be mines so I kind of had to try and convince her that I'm the right one. So she gave me a chance to my understanding.
Two days later she asked me if I wanted to go to Thailand with her. I said I didn't have the money at that moment because I had just gave 3 months rent plus 1 month deposit for a new apartment I was renting.
She said no problem and that she would pay for the whole trip including the tickets(This wasn't a loan).
The next week she bought me a new cell phone, and bought all this new stuff for my house, and some clothes. I didn't feel comfortable taking all of these things because I have never asked for anything from anyone unless I really really needed it. This time I didn't really need any of this. I said "no" but I didn't really insist "no".
Now comes to where the problem starts. In the past few days her personality has done a total 360 degree turn. She has turned "evil" for lack of a better term. Meaning extremely stubborn, bossy, bitchy, sarcastic, cold and self centered. I mean I just can't believe it. I thought that I found the perfect girl and its like an explosion in my face.
This potentially perfect Thailand trip has turned to a trip from hell because she is so cocky its unbelievable.
Every single thing I say is either wrong or has to be argued
She's loud and a bit abnoxious and thinks she knows everything.
Shes very controlling. I have to admit that I seem like the "woman" in this situation just because of the money situation in Thailand. She talks down to me in front of other people. Calls me stupid and other names. At this point I'm afraid that I'll be left here in Thailand.(she says im too sensitive when I complain after she insults me)
I really try not to argue with her but its extremely difficult when every varient of what you say she tears up. Also she says she doesn't care about money but she just tried to tear my head off because of 2000 baht(about 65 dollars)
Anyway the sex is pretty good and she loves it.
My question to you folks here is.....Is this a special breed of Shanghai woman? What the hell have I got myself into? Have anyone of you guys experienced this kind of breed of woman. Should I just ride the wave until it comes crashing down?
At this point I would just rather be her lover and not a boyfriend. despite all of this money that she has and the good time I'm having with it I don't love her. I think my pride will be hurt the most.
Well I guys I seriously need your help. What should I do next?
Anyway tomorrow I'm going to ride the elephants, take a cruise on a bamboo raft, see the river kuai, have a dinner cruise and tonight shes taking me to see Thai women shoot ping pongs out of their snatches.
Welcome to my Dilemma folks. |
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oh_the_darkness
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June 20, 2008 - 06:18 PM |
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She sounds like a typical Shanghai woman.
Very controlling, very nasty vicious personality.
Sucks to be you right now. |
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chamaflauge
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June 20, 2008 - 06:32 PM |
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Is it really that bad man? At this point anyway I think you are right. You are right that is the perfect word to describe her personality vicious. Where do they get this from. Sometimes I just want to slap her, but i know this is just a facade that she uses to mask her own weakness's. Its so apparent. |
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oh_the_darkness
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June 20, 2008 - 06:46 PM |
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Tell her to go and fck herself. See what she does.
Oh, do you have enough cash to get back to Shanghai? |
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p1atl10
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June 20, 2008 - 07:01 PM |
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My friend, in her mind you have been bought and paid for.
Next move for her is to put your eggs in a box, and have you carry her purse.
Run
It will not get better...
Being a lover only is not an option....see above comment about "bought and paid for"
Grab the return ticket...wait until she is in the bathroom....and hightail it for the airport. |
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Nathalie25
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June 20, 2008 - 07:02 PM |
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Shes very controlling. I have to admit that I seem like the "woman" in this situation just because of the money situation in Thailand. She talks down to me in front of other people. Calls me stupid and other names. At this point I'm afraid that I'll be left here in Thailand.(she says im too sensitive when I complain after she insults me)
I really try not to argue with her but its extremely difficult when every varient of what you say she tears up. Also she says she doesn't care about money but she just tried to tear my head off because of 2000 baht(about 65 dollars)
Anyway the sex is pretty good and she loves it.
My question to you folks here is.....Is this a special breed of Shanghai woman? What the hell have I got myself into? Have anyone of you guys experienced this kind of breed of woman. Should |
I just ride the wave until it comes crashing down? |
when some woman treats some man nicely in life, then at same time, some man should also treat his woman nicely for that, it never really involves materials, but some behaviors of that man should be done by his heart or spiritually~ |
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That_Chinese_Girl
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June 20, 2008 - 07:05 PM |
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Sorry to hear that you are in this situation. I have to say, you got yourself into this. There is no such thing as a free trip. She paid for everything and therefore she thinks she has the right to boss you around. You are only her servant now (and maybe sex slave?). I'd tough it out until you get back and say sayonara. |
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Nathalie25
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June 20, 2008 - 07:10 PM |
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yeah, I agree with you, some man he has no money to offer his trip for his woman, but some man still want to control his woman for fun and when some woman talks about what she needs for pleasing themselves in some trip, then some man just complains it in shanghaiexpat, i don't like this kind man, so sissy~~~ |
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flyingwings
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June 20, 2008 - 07:10 PM |
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hey all,
what s wrong with u guys? why everybody has bias on shanghainese girl???
im from here, neither me .. or none of my female friends ever act like her...
since u have known the answer already so then u don't need to say ' my dilemma '. just kick her out
and originally, u should have not accepted any of her gifts anyway
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Right now I'm at a luxury suite in Bangkok Thailand. Home of the never ending smile. I need your help people. Although I think I already know the answer.
I met this Shanghai girl two weeks ago on the net. When I first met her she was perfect. Intelligent, beautiful, and pretty well off. She works at one of these top accounting firms in Shanghai so she makes a pretty penny per month. Well beyond my meager teacher 12'000 a month salary.
The first two dates were excellent and I wanted her to be mines so I kind of had to try and convince her that I'm the right one. So she gave me a chance to my understanding.
Two days later she asked me if I wanted to go to Thailand with her. I said I didn't have the money at that moment because I had just gave 3 months rent plus 1 month deposit for a new apartment I was renting.
She said no problem and that she would pay for the whole trip including the tickets(This wasn't a loan).
The next week she bought me a new cell phone, and bought all this new stuff for my house, and some clothes. I didn't feel comfortable taking all of these things because I have never asked for anything from anyone unless I really really needed it. This time I didn't really need any of this. I said "no" but I didn't really insist "no".
Now comes to where the problem starts. In the past few days her personality has done a total 360 degree turn. She has turned "evil" for lack of a better term. Meaning extremely stubborn, bossy, bitchy, sarcastic, cold and self centered. I mean I just can't believe it. I thought that I found the perfect girl and its like an explosion in my face.
This potentially perfect Thailand trip has turned to a trip from hell because she is so cocky its unbelievable.
Every single thing I say is either wrong or has to be argued
She's loud and a bit abnoxious and thinks she knows everything.
Shes very controlling. I have to admit that I seem like the "woman" in this situation just because of the money situation in Thailand. She talks down to me in front of other people. Calls me stupid and other names. At this point I'm afraid that I'll be left here in Thailand.(she says im too sensitive when I complain after she insults me)
I really try not to argue with her but its extremely difficult when every varient of what you say she tears up. Also she says she doesn't care about money but she just tried to tear my head off because of 2000 baht(about 65 dollars)
Anyway the sex is pretty good and she loves it.
My question to you folks here is.....Is this a special breed of Shanghai woman? What the hell have I got myself into? Have anyone of you guys experienced this kind of breed of woman. Should I just ride the wave until it comes crashing down?
At this point I would just rather be her lover and not a boyfriend. despite all of this money that she has and the good time I'm having with it I don't love her. I think my pride will be hurt the most.
Well I guys I seriously need your help. What should I do next?
Anyway tomorrow I'm going to ride the elephants, take a cruise on a bamboo raft, see the river kuai, have a dinner cruise and tonight shes taking me to see Thai women shoot ping pongs out of their snatches.
Welcome to my Dilemma folks. |
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flyingwings
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June 20, 2008 - 07:12 PM |
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correct..
there will never be a free pizza...
if u can't accept the way she does to u..just leave her and come back to sha by yourself...easy
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| Sorry to hear that you are in this situation. I have to say, you got yourself into this. There is no such thing as a free trip. She paid for everything and therefore she thinks she has the right to boss you around. You are only her servant now (and maybe sex slave?). I'd tough it out until you get back and say sayonara. |
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Nathalie25
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June 20, 2008 - 07:40 PM |
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life so boring, so do the man~~~~~~ |
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CoffeeHawk_0
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June 20, 2008 - 07:46 PM |
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maybe you insulted her by not taking the gifts |
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That_Chinese_Girl
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June 20, 2008 - 07:48 PM |
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| I said "no" but I didn't really insist "no". |
It sounds like he took the gifts. |
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Nathalie25
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June 20, 2008 - 07:52 PM |
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| I said "no" but I didn't really insist "no". |
It sounds like he took the gifts. |
man so greedy~~~~~~~~~~man wants to get woman and gifts at same time~~ |
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leidelaohu
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June 20, 2008 - 09:33 PM |
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| Grab the return ticket...wait until she is in the bathroom....and hightail it for the airport. |
Pretty cheesy, Plates. He's been paid for, pretty crappy not to give full service for the trip. We'd be pissed if a girl did that.
Sometimes we learn the hard way ... |
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p1atl10
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June 20, 2008 - 10:23 PM |
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^ Just call me Mr. Insensitive then....
So...Say "Thanks for the trip, hope you enjoyed the sex!"....and then hightail it? |
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lucar
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June 20, 2008 - 10:49 PM |
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OMG. You people are all so provincial. Chama, you are now officially a kept boy. Deal with her temper and gets you some more stuffs while it lasts. What the hell are you waiting for? Don't even think about coming back to Shanghai with out some new clothes on your bak and some other little gifties to make you happy. Also, you need to work a regular allowance so you have time/money to go to the gym and keep pretty for her. Be sensitive to her needs and wants and figure out what she really is looking for and give it to her. If she likes to act dominent around her friends and slap you around a bit in public, but then when you get home she wants you to pound her till she can't walk, then you fuggen do it. You have ur job and she has hers.
You can ask Oh_the_Darkness all about it. He was a kept "man?" for quite some time.... |
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mat
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June 20, 2008 - 10:57 PM |
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| flyingwings wrote: |
hey all,
what s wrong with u guys? why everybody has bias on shanghainese girl???
im from here, neither me .. or none of my female friends ever act like her...
since u have known the answer already so then u don't need to say ' my dilemma '. just kick her out
and originally, u should have not accepted any of her gifts anyway
| chamaflauge wrote: |
Right now I'm at a luxury suite in Bangkok Thailand. Home of the never ending smile. I need your help people. Although I think I already know the answer.
I met this Shanghai girl two weeks ago on the net. When I first met her she was perfect. Intelligent, beautiful, and pretty well off. She works at one of these top accounting firms in Shanghai so she makes a pretty penny per month. Well beyond my meager teacher 12'000 a month salary.
The first two dates were excellent and I wanted her to be mines so I kind of had to try and convince her that I'm the right one. So she gave me a chance to my understanding.
Two days later she asked me if I wanted to go to Thailand with her. I said I didn't have the money at that moment because I had just gave 3 months rent plus 1 month deposit for a new apartment I was renting.
She said no problem and that she would pay for the whole trip including the tickets(This wasn't a loan).
The next week she bought me a new cell phone, and bought all this new stuff for my house, and some clothes. I didn't feel comfortable taking all of these things because I have never asked for anything from anyone unless I really really needed it. This time I didn't really need any of this. I said "no" but I didn't really insist "no".
Now comes to where the problem starts. In the past few days her personality has done a total 360 degree turn. She has turned "evil" for lack of a better term. Meaning extremely stubborn, bossy, bitchy, sarcastic, cold and self centered. I mean I just can't believe it. I thought that I found the perfect girl and its like an explosion in my face.
This potentially perfect Thailand trip has turned to a trip from hell because she is so cocky its unbelievable.
Every single thing I say is either wrong or has to be argued
She's loud and a bit abnoxious and thinks she knows everything.
Shes very controlling. I have to admit that I seem like the "woman" in this situation just because of the money situation in Thailand. She talks down to me in front of other people. Calls me stupid and other names. At this point I'm afraid that I'll be left here in Thailand.(she says im too sensitive when I complain after she insults me)
I really try not to argue with her but its extremely difficult when every varient of what you say she tears up. Also she says she doesn't care about money but she just tried to tear my head off because of 2000 baht(about 65 dollars)
Anyway the sex is pretty good and she loves it.
My question to you folks here is.....Is this a special breed of Shanghai woman? What the hell have I got myself into? Have anyone of you guys experienced this kind of breed of woman. Should I just ride the wave until it comes crashing down?
At this point I would just rather be her lover and not a boyfriend. despite all of this money that she has and the good time I'm having with it I don't love her. I think my pride will be hurt the most.
Well I guys I seriously need your help. What should I do next?
Anyway tomorrow I'm going to ride the elephants, take a cruise on a bamboo raft, see the river kuai, have a dinner cruise and tonight shes taking me to see Thai women shoot ping pongs out of their snatches.
Welcome to my Dilemma folks. |
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Mr Totomolo
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June 21, 2008 - 07:13 AM |
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Pretty cheesy, Plates. He's been paid for, pretty crappy not to give full service for the trip. We'd be pissed if a girl did that.
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Can't agree more... Men (specially Chinese men flush with cash) pick up "chicken", and so some Shanghaiese women have learned to pick up "ducks"....
Maybe it is about wanting to get even.... You just are in the wrong place with the wrong girl... Run fast |
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leidelaohu
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June 21, 2008 - 10:16 AM |
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^ Just call me Mr. Insensitive then....
So...Say "Thanks for the trip, hope you enjoyed the sex!"....and then hightail it? |
What is this, role reversal ? I'm from flaky California, you're the stalwart Midwesterner ! I believe that if you accept a job and get paid for the job then you should do the job, not run away the second the going gets tough.
Chamo is here, not in Minneapolis-St Paul. He took the tickets and presents. He's now in Thailand. TAANSTAFL.Time to supply the services he contracted to do. Unless he's aiming to become a True Shanghai Service-Provider, then he can take the money and run like a slimy little rat back into the nearest sewer, squeaking "bu hao yi si, bu hao yi si" as he goes. |
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CoffeeHawk_0
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June 21, 2008 - 10:31 AM |
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^you need to replace Dr. Phil, get your own show, become richer than Oprah. |
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Nathalie25
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June 21, 2008 - 12:31 PM |
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| ^you need to replace Dr. Phil, get your own show, become richer than Oprah |
why? because your have five fingers and can type words much faster than your mom??????? |
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bloomark
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Shanghainese girls? Nah, they are hopelessly snobbish, up-nosed, mercemery and short-skghted. I feel disgusted on them.
As most Chinese girls are, Shanghainese girls require more training on being graceful, magnanimous and the things with men.
I'm from Northeastern China, and that explains why my height and frame, which is an exceptional one in the South, could even rival most westerners(not to mention those silly and pathetic Shanghainese guys). Surprisingly and disgustingly, some the Shanghainese in this forum barefacedly alleged that Shanghainese are undoubtedly superior to other Chinese people physically(OMG, I just want to meet him and give him a smart lesson), educationally(Hell that, no further comments) and tastefully(obviously that sort of view represents most Shanghainese people's perspective, and they will find themselves so wrong if they've been to other parts in China, and other parts abroad).
I have to stand those Shanghainese girls tending to molest me when walking on the street because I don't like them at all, nor fall for them even if some of them have pretty amazing looking! Instead, I surely turned my eyes to avoid their eye contact! What disgusts me to the hell is that they act as dead jelly fish on sack! they almost take me short! More, what they are best at is to make every musculine guy into those Shanghainese alike gutless housemen.
Frankly, most Shanghainese girls, are retaining some stubborn habits handed down by their former generations, and those vilesome habits, both in mind and behavior, are still in the bone. That circumstances, there's nothing I can do with it, I'm pathetic.
Compared to the fact that Shanghainese girls are naughty, easy-to-get and going strong on betraying their origin, I prefer white girls(gosh, I love white girls, and amazingly I often get turnon with them!) What a relief!
I think Shanghainese girls should check over themselves and have a comparison with white girls, if they really feel superior and dominant. |
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Nathalie25
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June 21, 2008 - 01:52 PM |
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Compared to the fact that Shanghainese girls are naughty, easy-to-get and going strong on betraying their origin, I prefer white girls(gosh, I love white girls, and amazingly I often get turnon with them!) What a relief!
I think Shanghainese girls should check over themselves and have a comparison with white girls, if they really feel superior and dominant. |
why shanghainese girls should follow white chicks to live in???????????
My life never wanna follow white chicks to fool me around, I am the one who can plan and who can draw the pictures for myself to live in~~~~~~ |
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Nathalie25
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June 21, 2008 - 01:53 PM |
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you some white man so fool~~ |
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