| Author |
Message |
ChicoStateDisciple
Reacher
Joined: Jan 16, 2008
Posts: 359
Location: 3:17 AM
Status: Offline
|
 Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 02:24 PM |
 
|
| Post subject: Meeting the Parents |
I have a Chinese Girl I am in love with and I will be meeting her parents. In the US I would know what to do. But here I am not sure what will be the same or what will be different.
Some background: We have been dating for 7 months and are planning on going to the US for 2 months soon.
Any help would be appreciated. |
_________________
Conceived in London, Born in Germany and 100% American from Day 1 |
|
|
|
caroltan
Seeker
Joined: July 09, 2007
Posts: 47
Location: Pudong
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 02:27 PM |
|
|
Make sure you bring gifts! |
|
|
|
|
rayne
Reacher
Joined: May 19, 2008
Posts: 237
|
| Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 02:51 PM |
|
|
Bathe, shave, wear clean, pressed clothes. Don't talk too much, try to briefly answer questions, don't ask too many of your own. Gifts are a must. Offer to help with bringing food to the living room, and to wash the dishes. You will be told not to help, and politely accept. Listen to all the boring stories that they want to tell you ...... The important part is to show you love the girl, treat and respect her, and it's a serious relationship.
Or you could just tell the old farts: Hey, I shagged your daughter in all 3 holes and maaaaan, was she good at it! And does she love my schlong! Here, take a peek at it. Guess you've never seen like it, eh? Old mama, if you want, I can even give you a taste of the action. Just to show ya what you've been missing with the old daddy here. (Anyone know how the joke was supposed to be? I got a really bad memory)
That would leave a really lasting impression on them 
Oh yeah, gifts to bring, better to ask your gf. Could be cigarettes, wine, clothing, .... |
|
|
|
|
|
oh_the_darkness
Fire-eater
Joined: Apr 17, 2008
Posts: 2528
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 03:39 PM |
|
|
or hong bao... |
_________________
And you may ask yourself Am I right? ...am I wrong? And you may tell yourself My god!...what have I done? |
|
|
|
|
sbergman
Veejay
Joined: Sep 12, 2007
Posts: 2167
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 04:45 PM |
|
|
Does he touch her in front of the parents or not? How much physical affection is appropriate? |
|
|
|
|
|
That_Chinese_Girl
Veejay
Joined: Oct 08, 2007
Posts: 2039
|
| Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 07:30 PM |
|
|
^ No physical contact is best, on first visit at least. |
_________________
Objectivity is the male subjectivity. |
|
|
|
|
leidelaohu
Wonder Wit
Joined: June 11, 2007
Posts: 3781
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 20, 2008 - 09:25 PM |
|
|
| sbergman wrote: |
| Does he touch her in front of the parents or not? How much physical affection is appropriate? |
The smell of burning leather
as we hold each other tight
As our rivets rub together
flashing sparks into the night
At this moment of surrender darling
if you really care
Don't touch me there ! |
|
|
|
|
|
seabreeze98
Talker
Joined: Mar 11, 2008
Posts: 122
Location: How do you work the GPS?
|
| Posted:
June 21, 2008 - 01:08 PM |
|
|
yeah, go for the bum instead |
_________________
“It’s a totally different world, and it’s an expensive world,” Lever, the sociologist, said. “You can’t go around being a little princess on the pedestal.” |
|
|
|
|
Nathalie25
Board Legend
Joined: Aug 24, 2004
Posts: 10387
Location: Shanghai
|
| Posted:
June 21, 2008 - 01:16 PM |
|
|
awful~ |
_________________
功高盖主，必有祸出。人生是人类生命中内心和万般经历的真实写照。 http:/ |
|
 |
|
lucyna
Veejay
Joined: Aug 03, 2006
Posts: 2166
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 21, 2008 - 02:18 PM |
|
|
|
|
|
|
bougie
Board Buddha
Joined: Nov 20, 2004
Posts: 13323
Location: Wuhan Hubei China
|
| Posted:
June 21, 2008 - 05:28 PM |
|
|
Wear a shirt and a brown jacket |
|
|
|
|
|
lilypink
Reacher
Joined: June 10, 2007
Posts: 280
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 21, 2008 - 09:16 PM |
|
|
just prepare a full Hong Bao and well done! |
|
|
|
|
|
ChicoStateDisciple
Reacher
Joined: Jan 16, 2008
Posts: 359
Location: 3:17 AM
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 24, 2008 - 12:25 AM |
|
|
This is all **** could have figured out on my own.
How should I act when family enters the room?
Who should pay for dinner?
Should I get drunk with the father?
Should I whip out my massive calk? to seal the deal..
Give me some useful tipps
I am very good with people... but I want to know of any curve balls.
All her family loves me cause I show me love for her. (I really do love her and i do not take the words lightly)
Kick some knowledge...
Please... |
_________________
Conceived in London, Born in Germany and 100% American from Day 1 |
|
|
|
|
dfoo
Post Roaster
Joined: Jan 19, 2005
Posts: 4140
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 24, 2008 - 12:52 AM |
|
|
You don't give hong bao on your first visit. The parents, OTOH, will give YOU hong bao! |
|
|
|
|
|
ChicoStateDisciple
Reacher
Joined: Jan 16, 2008
Posts: 359
Location: 3:17 AM
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
June 24, 2008 - 01:13 AM |
|
|
Yeah I have heard from her...
This is my first visit. |
_________________
Conceived in London, Born in Germany and 100% American from Day 1 |
|
|
|
|
GC
The Ginger Prince
Joined: Dec 01, 2003
Posts: 21536
|
| Posted:
June 24, 2008 - 08:42 AM |
|
| Post subject: Re: Meeting the Parents |
| ChicoStateDisciple wrote: |
Some background: We have been dating for 7 months and are planning on going to the US for 2 months soon.
Any help would be appreciated. |
Start applying for the visa now, better to get the rejection out of the way before autumn. |
_________________
You turned on the lights, Fuelled U boats by night, That's how you repay us, It's time to go home. |
|
 |
|
ChicoStateDisciple
Reacher
Joined: Jan 16, 2008
Posts: 359
Location: 3:17 AM
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
July 01, 2008 - 12:26 AM |
|
|
Just update on the meeting.
Went well, brought presents. Her parents refused to speak anything but shanghai-ese. Dad has no teeth (lost them in a fight) and mom looks surprisingly good.
I love my girl. |
_________________
Conceived in London, Born in Germany and 100% American from Day 1 |
|
|
|
|
lmao
Newbie
Joined: June 29, 2008
Posts: 6
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
July 01, 2008 - 01:47 AM |
|
|
| bougie wrote: |
| Wear a shirt and a brown jacket |
with matching boxers |
|
|
|
|
|
myghare
Lurker
Joined: May 23, 2008
Posts: 20
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
July 04, 2008 - 10:09 PM |
|
| Post subject: Dating |
|
|
|
|
BONNIE
Veejay
Joined: June 17, 2005
Posts: 1909
Location: Amsterdam/Shanghai
|
| Posted:
July 04, 2008 - 11:06 PM |
|
|
My young man took me to meet his parents and grandparents and uncles and aunties to his hometown of Changsha..........gobsmacked would be an understatement:) |
_________________
Siberia.......Here I come ! |
|
|
|
|
bloomark
PopStar
Joined: Apr 28, 2008
Posts: 1015
Location: Reality
Status: Offline
|
| Posted:
July 05, 2008 - 10:39 PM |
|
|
Meeting the parents?
Well, probably you are required to act submissive and loyal to all of them.
It largely depends on if they are conservative. If they are, you need to show your resolution and sincereness right from your heart, that's exactly what the more traditional Chinese parents value the most.
But if they got to be more open-minded and modern, things would be easier, and hence there will be more margin and room for you to use. |
_________________
Never expect accountable tips from a bitter rumrunner. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Forum FAQ
Search
Preferences
Watched Topics
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
