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ms_dior

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 09:32 AM

jeffinflorida wrote:

ms_dior wrote:

anyway, i think u should try to refuse her once and see what happen ... let s say TONIGHT

Refuse SEX? What am I retarded or gay? (Seinfeld disclaimer - there is nothing wrong with being gay or retarded.)

ok then
go ahead and keep banging...why bother post here

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 09:37 AM

jeffinflorida wrote:

So far no requests for anything but tonight she came by around 6. Sat and watched prison break on my computer till around 930 when I told her I had work to do. Damn she looked angry when I told her no more tv on the computer tonight. Sher said she will stay the night so she can watch tv / computer till late, i told her no.

I think it's quite obvious why she is staying over Jeff.

From my understanding (and the above quote sums it up), she is most likely living in a complete dump in her Uni, sharing a room with 10 other girls and a toilet with 50, with no television and computer. Pretty crappy huh?

Hence, she will put up with letting you rag her in order for her to live in relative comfort and be able to watch whatever she wants as well as doodle about on your computer.

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 09:48 AM

Another illustrative case of how cheap life is here really.

Sad but true.

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jeffinflorida

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 09:55 AM

p1atl10 wrote:

jeffinflorida...
No offense mate....you seem to be a pretty decent sort on most of the posts here.
Just want to check on the English Teachers Checklist of Low Moral Character
- You are an old slightly paunchy white guy
- You are a teacher at a University
- You have a steady girlfriend...who I assume has some sort of emotional commitment from you....or thinks there is that from you?
- You are banging a 22 year old student at that same University.
Hmmm....Seems you have most of it nailed.
Congrats for continuing in the fine tradition of English Teachers here.....
Jeesh

Never said I was old,never said I was paunchy,never said I am an English teacher (I'm not), Any more?

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Low Moral Character

This girl finished her studies but still lives here. Doesn't have any class as she is a last year student and supposed to be out looking for a job. I never hunted her... She hunted me... And she is obliviously not "pure" not that it matters...

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you seem to be a pretty decent sort on most of the posts here.

I consider myself a moral person yes.

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jeffinflorida

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:03 AM

CK1 wrote:

I think it's quite obvious why she is staying over Jeff.
From my understanding (and the above quote sums it up), she is most likely living in a complete dump in her Uni, sharing a room with 10 other girls and a toilet with 50, with no television and computer. Pretty crappy huh?
Hence, she will put up with letting you rag her in order for her to live in relative comfort and be able to watch whatever she wants as well as doodle about on your computer.

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Another illustrative case of how cheap life is here really.

It was cheap before we got here and will be cheap when we leave...

By the way, after 5 days now I know her name...

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:09 AM

[quote="jeffinflorida"]

CK1 wrote:

I think it's quite obvious why she is staying over Jeff.
From my understanding (and the above quote sums it up), she is most likely living in a complete dump in her Uni, sharing a room with 10 other girls and a toilet with 50, with no television and computer. Pretty crappy huh?
Hence, she will put up with letting you rag her in order for her to live in relative comfort and be able to watch whatever she wants as well as doodle about on your computer.

She lives in a room smaller than the size of my living room with 6 girls and no hot water,no heat,no computer, and sleeps on a piece of plywood on a bunk bed like all the rest. Cost her 4 rmb to take a hot shower and according to those students I ask, they only do it twice a week because it cost too much money.

As far as me raging her, well this morning she ragged me...

But now I still have to figure out her motives. She wants something I am sure, she just hasn't had the nerve to ask for it. They all want something.

Jeff, I thought I just explained it, and from your answer above you confirmed it. How have you not figured it out.

She lives in a hole, you don't. She enjoys staying in a place that is not a hole. THIS IS HER MOTIVE. She like staying in comfort. Sheesh.

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:11 AM

CK1's got it I think.

It's like when homeless people sleep in a Bus shelter!

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:15 AM

so cheappppppppppppppp

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ms_dior

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:18 AM

4 kuai for a hot shower??

gosh

bloody cheap college farmer girl and don't think she can find any decent job to get rid of the bad situation during the economic crisis...

so jeff - enjoy it

u buy her a dinner some time, she will think u r god

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:24 AM

Just protect your weapon, your wallet, and your professional life.

You'll also want to think whether it's not a big deal for you to lose your other girlfriends. They notice everything. . . a strand of hair, 9 condoms in a condom box of 12, two damp towels instead of one, etc . . .

Also . . . all those scare stories of "crazy" Chinese girls are so over rated. Instead of imagining the unknowns, stick with what you know. The girl comes over, rides the pony, watches TV, hangs out, and then goes home. Nothing particularly wrong with any of this as long as you stick with some basic rules written above.

CrystalRock

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:33 AM

Does that girl know you have other girlfriends? Maybe you should tell her if she didn't know it.

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Juan_Tamad

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 10:39 AM

CrystalRock wrote:

Does that girl know you have other girlfriends? Maybe you should tell her if she didn't know it.

Is this necessary? She's bunking sometimes in a nice warm room, warm bed and being banged a lot by a laowai....she feels she is lucky and the other girls living with here probably thinks so too.

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 11:02 AM

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Is this necessary?

Yes.

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 11:06 AM

Actually . . . the answer is "NO". If the girl wanted to know the answer to this question, she would have asked.

Just remember Jeff, if you want some Crystal action, you gotta let HER know that you have other girlfriends as this seems to be an important issue for her.

Respect . . .

jeffinflorida

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 12:37 PM

We have been chatting. So far she has NOT asked for money or anything else. I cook alot so she gets food - hot western food. She does seem to be motivated by tv and a warm bed... And there are dozens of restaurants out the gate of my school and a hundred street vendors, so food is not an issue.

I do like some privacy and alone time though and I feel bad when I have to tell her to leave so I can either be alone or do work on the computer. She spent the night last night and after lunch I had things to do. So at 12 I told her I had to go to the office. She asked if she can stay here and watch tv. I said no sorry and she went back to her room.

As far as my primary girlfriend goes... Things haven't been the greatest for about 2weeks before this kitten was dropped on my doorstep... And we have not agreed to continue or end as of yet.

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 12:51 PM

Dude, man up and end your relationship with your girlfriend and leave the "dabble with the next mate before ending it with the prior" to wussy guys and women.

tontoeman

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 12:55 PM

ms_dior wrote:

i guess this poor guy must be HOT ... cos he has 2 gf already and now..3rd potential one..

am i right

Probably not because its SO and probably TOO easy to do in China, i duno why? :/

ms_dior

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 01:04 PM

tontoeman wrote:

ms_dior wrote:

i guess this poor guy must be HOT ... cos he has 2 gf already and now..3rd potential one..

am i right

Probably not because its SO and probably TOO easy to do in China, i duno why? :/

well as a girl, i feel it s a shame

but anyway, ppl has different lifestyle..

nothing more to say but just feel it s sad

tontoeman

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 01:05 PM

I duno, but these kinds of things are huge turn-offs for me. I just can't bring myself to get with some random girl that I know nothing about, know nothing about the diseases she carriers nor her motives. All these things put a damper on anything happening, and trust me, i've been around a few girls who have pressured themselves on me but i refuse everytime

Oh maybe its just because i have morals and ethics, duno...

(Disclaimer: of course i've made mistakes, but i usually build from them)

p1atl10

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 01:15 PM

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Never said I was old,never said I was paunchy,never said I am an English teacher (I'm not), Any more?

Geee....Sorry for mis-reading what you wrote originally.

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She asked me where I was from and if I was a teacher at the school I was heading to and I said yes. I asked her where she was going and she said the internet cafe that we walked by.

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Fast forward. Friday night. My steady girlfriend of 8 months is i n her room, didn't want to come over

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So she sits on my couch and we chat. Her English is ok. She's a 3rd year student at my school, but not in my program.

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Um in my humble opinion, some days maybe, but most days not. When I exercise and drop down about 10-15 lbs I look much better, but hot... No.

Come on, I'm 46, 6'2" but most foreigners peg my age at 30 to 35, and about 260 lbs I would guess..

And the Low Moral Character bit.....was more a comment on banging a 22 year when you have a girlfriend of 8 months...

And then bragging about it here....

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 01:27 PM

p1atl10 wrote:

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Never said I was old,never said I was paunchy,never said I am an English teacher (I'm not), Any more?

Geee....Sorry for mis-reading what you wrote originally.

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She asked me where I was from and if I was a teacher at the school I was heading to and I said yes. I asked her where she was going and she said the internet cafe that we walked by.

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Fast forward. Friday night. My steady girlfriend of 8 months is i n her room, didn't want to come over

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So she sits on my couch and we chat. Her English is ok. She's a 3rd year student at my school, but not in my program.

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And the Low Moral Character bit.....was more a comment on banging a 22 year when you have a girlfriend of 8 months...

And then bragging about it here....

Lol - Love it, maybe this is why I dont have too many foreign friends in SH? :/

hotsugar

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 01:43 PM

A fat old lonely bored man is delighted about his unexpected encounter with a young juicy hottie. He is just showing off his “free pie”. This is all what his posts are about.

ms_dior

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 01:53 PM

this morning u say:

As far as me raging her, well this morning she ragged me...

But now I still have to figure out her motives. She wants something I am sure, she just hasn't had the nerve to ask for it. They all want something.

last night at 10pm u posted

So far no requests for anything but tonight she came by around 6. Sat and watched prison break on my computer till around 930 when I told her I had work to do. Damn she looked angry when I told her no more tv on the computer tonight. Sher said she will stay the night so she can watch tv / computer till late, i told her no.

are u sure u aint composing a story and just rag with everybody here

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 03:00 PM

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The next day... A knock at my door! Guess who's back! She comes over, spends the night yet again... This has gone on almost every night since I met her. She comes over, watches tv, eats, showers, does me, and either leaves or spends the night.

After 5 days, I still don't know her name or WHAT SHE WANTS. I am sure she has an angle, don’t they all?

Does she want money? A Visa? Clothes? New phone? Don’t know yet. I can tell you she is attractive, loves to be held and cuddled, and sleeps 14 hours a day – when she is not watching tv.

What to do? I have 2 girlfriends already… Wasn’t really looking for a third.

Maybe I need to post this on a new

1. you wanted sex and that girl also wanted sex in that midnight.
2. you wanted to quickly stop any connection after you slept with that girl, but maybe that girl wanted much more from you and it both from materials and the happiness and wishes for love from her mental thinkings.
3. all you talking about is nonosense and rubbish, just for killing your stupid time in here,over~~~~~~~~~`

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Posted: Dec 17, 2008 - 03:02 PM

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Also your words it reminds me that never ever talk or date with the person who just wanna sex for fool and never really wanna behave any serious relationship or marriage to date or to relate with and that's why I am still single, cheers~~~~

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