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NewMoonShan

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 - 01:29 PM
Post subject: Qn by mum with baby new to Shanghai

Hi,
My husband has relocated to Shanghai last week and I will be joining him very soon. Being a working mum for more than a year, I'm really really helpless now when think of what can I do in Shanghai, with a 1 yr old baby girl. I will go nuts staying at home all day, being a full time housewife and mother ... Any good suggestion ??

margarita

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 - 03:36 PM

Newmoonshan,
i know it will propably sound insenstive to tell you this yet i feel that the best way to get over your thoughts of helplessness is to wait until you arrive. You said it, you have a 1yr old baby girl and thats is plenty believe me.. being here and adjusting to a whole new environment and culture. My suggestion is dont think too much or worry that will only stress you and your baby and when you arrive you will stress your husband and that is not fun, especially after a relocation you all need to be happy, together and enjoying this experience.
I always worked, all my life since I was 13 and when I cam to SHA, i felt that my whole purpose for living was "work". that was more than 7 yrs ago... guess what? it isnt, there is more out there than working to make you feel worthy. Enjoy your child, be with her, this is a great city full of things to do. Friends will come along as you live here and activities will come up, please dont rush yourself.
We have a 17mo old baby girl ourselves, I love just being with her yet her and i are working on a home based business, still in developmental stages but its our project, we do everything together. You will enjoy it too. Hang in there no worries and see you when you arrive?
Margarita

Alexinchina

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 - 04:30 PM

Hi Newmoonshan,
I've got to agree with Margarita. I'm in pretty much the same situation as you. We moved to Shanghai 2 weeks ago, I've been on maternitiy leave for 5 months but prior to that I was working. I'm loving being at home with my little girl. I would never have thought I could be happy staying home but I can't imagine going back to work yet. It seems like Shanghai has a huge amount to offer both worthwhile (volunteering, teaching etc) and fun. Feel free to PM me if you want to get together once you get here and maybe we can figure out what some of these things are!

margarita

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 - 04:43 PM

alexinchina,
how old is your lil angel?

NewMoonShan

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 - 06:01 PM

Hi Margarita, Alexinchina,
Thank you for your advice. Yeah u ladies r right, I do worry too much. Has been keep thinking what activities can I do in Shan beside just staying at home. My husband is extremely busy, so I need to keep myself occupy so that I will not bother him too much.
Perhaps I really worry too much. Is there any association that you join to meet more friends ?

Alexinchina

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 - 10:05 AM

Hi,
I haven't got around to it but I'm thinking Brits Abroad as a start and then maybe American Womens association. There's also these Shanghai expat mixers (Sat morning and Wednesday afternoon) which sound like a good way to meet people. Where are you coming from?
Margarita, my daughter is a little over 5 months.

margarita

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 - 02:38 PM

theres also the LLL group in SHA lots of moms and babies there too.
of you are breastfeeding you can just join us at the meetings, learn new things, share your knowledge and meet moms from all over the world.
Thanks Alex please let me know if i can be of any help.
margarita

NewMoonShan

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 - 05:45 PM

Thanks! I'm Singapore.
Margarita, whats LLL group ?

MahamYe

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Posted: Oct 25, 2004 - 02:07 PM

LLL is the La Leche League and it's a breastfeeding support/info network with branches all over the world. Breasefeeders (or those who want to learn more about breastfeeding) meet every month. The Shanghai group meets every 2nd Wed. Since the leader of the LLL is away for a few monthes, we are having informal "mom's support group" at member's homes till she returns in Jan. This month is at my house on Nov. 10. All are welcome to attend. PM me for directions/info. The more the merrier!

Alexinchina

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Posted: Oct 25, 2004 - 09:49 PM

Thank Margarita

carrol

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Posted: Oct 26, 2004 - 10:27 AM

All you lucky young mothers! Appreciate this time of your lives, when you are able to do nothing much more than simply enjoy life and devote your time to bringing up the little treasures God has entrusted to you. As a Grandmother (my granddaughter lives in London), I envy you! (If anyone needs a babysitter at any time, you know where to find me).

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Alexinchina

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Posted: Oct 26, 2004 - 11:31 AM

Thanks Carol, we will certainly enjoy. Perhaps you and my mum should swap, she's in London Wink

MatildaGirl

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Posted: Nov 06, 2004 - 09:55 AM

Babies are a joy. I haven't moved to Shanghai yet, planning on arriving around April 2005. I have 5 kids, no longer little babies but all delighful in their own ways.

margarita

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Posted: Nov 06, 2004 - 04:53 PM

Carrol id like to meet you you sound like a wonderful person. Thanks for the offer thats very nice of you..
margarita

lioralourie

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Posted: Dec 02, 2004 - 12:59 AM

p.s. the December LLL mother's support group is at my place on Wed. 12/15. Please PM me for directions, etc. take care, all
Liora

flavie

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Posted: Dec 22, 2004 - 05:13 PM

Hi Ladies,

I am new to Shanghai and I a expecting my first baby for May 2005. I would be interested in meeting you. I can of need all the advises and support I can get. Could you advise when and where is the next meeting ? I am aware that lots of expats are gone home for xmas.
Looking forward to hear from you.

Rolling Eyes

lioralourie

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Posted: Feb 21, 2005 - 12:24 PM

hi, this copied from the announcements/events section

February's La Leche League meeting will be on Wednesday, February 23rd, from 2-4pm, in the Mongolian Tent (Yurt) of the Shanghai United Family Hospital. (See the end of the post for directions.)

The topic of this month's meeting is "There's a New Baby in Your Life".

Here are upcoming meeting dates and topics for the next couple of months:

March 16th - Avoiding Common Breastfeeding Difficulties
April 13th - Nutrition and Weaning

Babies and children are always welcome at our meetings.

Directions for Shanghai United Family Hospital:
#1 139 Xian Xia Lu (between Lin Quan Lu and Bei Hong Lu, near Ha Mi Lu),
Changning District
It is near the Shanghai American Homes. For more directions ring the
hospital at: 5133 1900

Address in Chinese:

上海和睦家医院
上海市长宁区仙霞路1139号

LinaTay

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Posted: Feb 21, 2005 - 12:55 PM

Oh my gosh! I cannot believe I found this forum! It is like an answer to my prayers!!!! I have also posted on another forum looking for a playgroup to go to. I'm a nursing mother of a 5 month old. We have only been here a week and I'm already feeling quite lost and a little helpless! Perhaps u all can guide me alittle. Do most of u live in Gubei?

Lina

LinaTay

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Posted: Feb 21, 2005 - 01:20 PM

sorry Liora, like i said I'm a little lost...is the above add Puxi or Pudong?! Gee...

MahamYe

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Posted: Feb 21, 2005 - 03:43 PM

Hi Lina,

The LLL meeting is on Wed. in Puxi- not too far from Gubei. I just sent you a PM about it and about the playgroup...

Murray_B

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Posted: Feb 22, 2005 - 03:00 AM

hi there all,
This is great to have found this forum too, my husband and I are moving to Shanghai in June from Australia and I have a 18month old and a 4 year old and am so excited to hear that there are lots of mums in Shanghai I would love to know of any playgroups in the Pudong area?
Kathy under Murrays login

Alexinchina

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Posted: Feb 23, 2005 - 12:28 PM

You can also check out the International Mothers Support Group (IMSG). Has one meeting a month in both Puxi and Pudong and is a good way to meet people. Try mailing

imsgshanghai@hotmail.com

for the next round of meetings

lioralourie

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Posted: Mar 07, 2005 - 11:54 PM

hi, LinaTay, dont' worry, you'll find your way around really soon! Sorry I didn't get back to you but I didn't have this thread set to notify me of updates..but that's fixed now. Best of luck, and I hope we get to meet someday!

LinaTay

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Posted: Mar 08, 2005 - 12:51 PM

well, I must say there has been improvement Smile

We have gone out a few times and even met a new friend for tea! I guess it takes time... I will be attebding the next LLL meeeting so hope to see you there then...enjoy the warm day! Thanks Liora..