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itv1980
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Some time ago read some articles about the happiness of the lovelife of people from different stands of life.
The question for discussion:
Would you rather stay with a poorer guy (like working at Mac Donald) who has much time to take you somewhere, be together, making love etc. et.c
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The rich guy, (CEO or manager type) who has much money but almost no time for you to go out, be together and sometimes is even too tired to do anything. But gives you fancy gifts and dinners etc.
I would like to know, the article I read stated that the poorer guy had the advantage and had more action than the rich one, and was overal more happier. Wondering if this is true here as well or what you all are thinking.
Personally I would love to have the middle way between the two, but to choose I rather have more time on my hand and be with the one I love then soo bussy working and not even able to enjoy my money earned.
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MichaelT
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Oct 05, 2005 - 01:35 PM |
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Is question only for girls?
There is nothing worth more then being loved and the best thing you can give and receive is love. So it won't be hard to see one can should be happier with the first.
However we all go through phases in live and I wouldn't mind if my SO is the 2nd as long as it was just a temporally planed phase of her life. |
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LifeMage
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Oct 05, 2005 - 03:20 PM |
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being a straight male, the obvious choice for me is the CEO= never around but buys me gifts and dinner. |
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MissIndependent
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Oct 05, 2005 - 04:13 PM |
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It is okay to be busy.
It is not okay to ignore me.
I want to be his happy thought. I want to know he thinks I am his happy thought.
A text msg with only one or two words, or a quick phone call to let me know he is safe and doing well and thinking of me would not hurt and cost too much time. It is the evidence of love, cause I know I am in love with someone when I feel the eagerness to share every good moment and nice thing with him, and I cannot wait to tell him about every of my new explorations. I hate it when I never get response from him. It is okay for him to dislike what I share with him or think i am crazy or nuts or stupid whatever, but at least show that he cares about what I am doing.
This, however, is just what I expect from THAT one special.
I did not get much of it growing up and I am usually very self-suffient and don't need much attention and love-exchange thing. But I assume every personality complex in its completion and healthiness has such growing all the way up. Guess that explains why I crave and long for that from my partner, and why I seem to can not get and give enough of it.
Well I am probably an extreme case here. |
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rubber_duckie
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Oct 05, 2005 - 06:31 PM |
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If I was poor with only a high school degree I'll go with the first choice. It is much easier to relate yourself to someone with the same amount of experience and education level.
If I was rich I would go with the second choice
If I am in between I'll go with BOB |
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uglyamerican
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Oct 05, 2005 - 08:08 PM |
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How about the best of both worlds?
Take the CEO's gifts and go to bed with the burger-flipping guy while you can.
You won't be the first, believe me. |
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Lesi
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Such a bad guy!!! Uglyamerican. |
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Bubbletea
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Oct 05, 2005 - 08:59 PM |
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I think my guy is fantastic. I just want to spend time with him but guess what, he is guy number two and i see him once a week. Twice if i am lucky. What i would give for an inbetween... |
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Rio
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Oct 05, 2005 - 09:43 PM |
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I'd go for the rich MILF.  |
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Clark_Kent
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| MissIndependent wrote: |
It is okay to be busy.
It is not okay to ignore me.
I want to be his happy thought. I want to know he thinks I am his happy thought.
A text msg with only one or two words, or a quick phone call to let me know he is safe and doing well and thinking of me would not hurt and cost too much time. It is the evidence of love, cause I know I am in love with someone when I feel the eagerness to share every good moment and nice thing with him, and I cannot wait to tell him about every of my new explorations. I hate it when I never get response from him. It is okay for him to dislike what I share with him or think i am crazy or nuts or stupid whatever, but at least show that he cares about what I am doing.
This, however, is just what I expect from THAT one special.
I did not get much of it growing up and I am usually very self-suffient and don't need much attention and love-exchange thing. But I assume every personality complex in its completion and healthiness has such growing all the way up. Guess that explains why I crave and long for that from my partner, and why I seem to can not get and give enough of it.
Well I am probably an extreme case here. |
Ok, you come across as the needy clingy type. Please don't PM me. Sorry to have changed my mind on you, but no pearl necklace for you despite earlier posts. |
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BONNIE
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Oct 05, 2005 - 10:44 PM |
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You just got out of that in time.......................she'd stick to you like **** to a blanket. |
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Clark_Kent
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Oct 05, 2005 - 11:48 PM |
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Don't be a sore winner. That's unattractive! I can't help it if I'm such a MacDaddy! |
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BONNIE
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Goodnight sunshine........................sweet dreams |
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madison
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| itv1980 wrote: |
Some time ago read some articles about the happiness of the lovelife of people from different stands of life.
The question for discussion:
Would you rather stay with a poorer guy (like working at Mac Donald) who has much time to take you somewhere, be together, making love etc. et.c
or
The rich guy, (CEO or manager type) who has much money but almost no time for you to go out, be together and sometimes is even too tired to do anything. But gives you fancy gifts and dinners etc.
I would like to know, the article I read stated that the poorer guy had the advantage and had more action than the rich one, and was overal more happier. Wondering if this is true here as well or what you all are thinking.
Personally I would love to have the middle way between the two, but to choose I rather have more time on my hand and be with the one I love then soo bussy working and not even able to enjoy my money earned.
Look forward to your replies |
If it's a direct comparison between 2 guys of more or less the same age and one is a CEO and the other is flipping burgers, no contest. The ambitious, driven, powerful go-getter one is obviously the more attractive.
Having said that, most women I know, don't want to be "looked after" or placated with trinkets - they can get those on their own. If that's all the CEO fella is offering he's not that great a catch either |
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Clark_Kent
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Oct 06, 2005 - 04:29 PM |
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| Goodnight sunshine........................sweet dreams |
That sounded a little too attached. I'm only going to be in Shanghai for 2 weeks if I come. You are not going to start having feelings for me are you? I don't need another love sick puppy following me around. My suggestion is hedge your bets and go date a few other Chinese Man. |
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BONNIE
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Oct 06, 2005 - 07:23 PM |
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 It's not your heart I am interested in.
Your mind .............maybe..................but not your heart........... |
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Clark_Kent
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Oct 06, 2005 - 07:43 PM |
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Don't go for my mind either. You'll find nothing there.  Just think of me as a good lay. Or a fun friend who can do you lots of sexual favors. I can go for that. |
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Nathalie25
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Oct 06, 2005 - 09:19 PM |
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| itv1980 wrote: |
Some time ago read some articles about the happiness of the lovelife of people from different stands of life.
The question for discussion:
Would you rather stay with a poorer guy (like working at Mac Donald) who has much time to take you somewhere, be together, making love etc. et.c
or
The rich guy, (CEO or manager type) who has much money but almost no time for you to go out, be together and sometimes is even too tired to do anything. But gives you fancy gifts and dinners etc.
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This question is just as same as the one I have replied in"will you marry for money" this thread. People they totally dislike to choose the life between rich & poor to live by, but they have to, because they must suffer the hardship in their lives, no matter they are poor or not.
I maybe would like to choose the poor one to get together with, but when you really live together with a poor guy, then many things will happen, you will have no much money to decorate your house for living in there after you get married with your poor guy, you will have no much money to maintain your lives, because your poor man and you cannot earn lots of money to comfort yourselves. Sometimes I think that we people are very innocent and naive, so they think that without love, they cannot do anything here, but if you really have no much money, then what you really can do, so a little bit cash or money it really can delight you daily ?
No, it is impossible if you have no money ! So as I tell you that if I have no money & no computer & no house & no TV, then most people will never have chances to know me or to meet me in their lives, so a little bit realistic & economistic on choosing the balanced mate for yourself is quite good choice for balancing your life, so I don't think that most girls would really like to choose the poor guy to live together in nowadays.
But I will not choose any rich guy to have fun together with, neither. And if some fancy gifts can fool someone's heart, then this person must is a fully foolish person.
And I don't think that corporeal & material satisfaction it really can please you people all day long, so if you chase the fancy gifts or follow the satisfaction of material or corporeal, then finally, I can bet that you will lose all your values from it.
Ok, time to rest now.
Good night!
Nathalie |
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itv1980
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Oct 08, 2005 - 10:15 PM |
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Well that was enlightening  |
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itv1980
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thank you for your replies |
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manchjurica
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Oct 08, 2005 - 10:23 PM |
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For me I wouldnt consider them both. There is no guy in middle of these two positions? |
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kricit
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Oct 09, 2005 - 11:57 PM |
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why always mix material standard with ppl's sentimental choices, don't you wanna to be with someone because u are happy to be with him/her, more time to spend with you, more money to spend on you, that is just not the point, the point is you feel happy to be with him/her, every second you guys togehter is unbeatable, we need to give faith to ourselves, we are not afraid of being alone, we are not afriad of falling in love too, we are capable to make our own livings, we just need follow our heart. |
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Nathalie25
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Oct 10, 2005 - 07:46 AM |
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| itv1980 wrote: |
| thank you for your replies |
You are welcome, I like talking and debating, so just put your posts here and let me join your discussion then.
hehe.... |
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Rio
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Oct 10, 2005 - 08:00 AM |
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as long as you dont start bla bla'ing in German |
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Nathalie25
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Oct 10, 2005 - 08:13 AM |
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| Rio wrote: |
| as long as you dont start bla bla'ing in German |
Ok , I will stop speaking german, I promise. |
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