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Sushi

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Posted: Nov 06, 2005 - 10:50 AM
Post subject: Would you borrow money from your girlfriends?

My friend just told me that she just lent several thousand yuan to her boyfriend. My first thought is that they are gonna over and she would never get the money back. I told her about my concerns. She was trying to tell me the reasons why his boyfriend borrowed the money. She said that she trusted him and he has spent loads of money on her which was much more than the amount she lent him. I said that these are totally different things. It might be harsh for her to admit that I was telling the truth. If she is 100% sure about it, why would she bother to tell me and give me a chance to say bad words about her bf.

Would a guy really have a good reason to borrow money from his girlfriends?

(For me, I would diss him if he would give it a thought. I would like to hear that I am wrong)

ParanoiC

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Posted: Nov 06, 2005 - 12:05 PM

I once lent a couple of thousand kuai to a male friend. And I never got it back.

but my case was a bit different as we were not in serious relationship. he did not spend a lot of money on me. I just thought his situation was really shitty and needed my help. now I've learnt my lesson and will never lend money of more than one thousand kuais to someone I have not yet built up trust with.

I still believe if a guy try to borrow money from his GIRLFRIEND, he must have some really serious problem that needs to be sorted out.

Trust him and help, I'd say. it is how and where trust gets strengthened and bond gets stronger.

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ParanoiC

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Posted: Nov 06, 2005 - 12:09 PM

if he never pays your money back, well that is the cost to see through the fact that he is NOT the guy for you ... have a good laugh at yourself and move on.

pain out of loss in money is easier to get over with in comparison to a bad breakup out of infidelity and cheating.

Benoist_Shanghai
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Posted: Nov 06, 2005 - 12:16 PM

Wait, the question is indifferently "Would you borrow money from your girlfriends/boyfriends", right?

Otherwise you'll have to explain me why it would work only one way.

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MichaelT

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Posted: Nov 06, 2005 - 07:46 PM

Benoist_Shanghai wrote:

Wait, the question is indifferently "Would you borrow money from your girlfriends/boyfriends", right?

Otherwise you'll have to explain me why it would work only one way.

b.

Because in Sushi's world.. money should only flow in 1 direction.

Men->women->As women please

findus

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Posted: Nov 07, 2005 - 03:38 AM

ParanoiC wrote:

I still believe if a guy try to borrow money from his GIRLFRIEND, he must have some really serious problem that needs to be sorted out.

Trust him and help, I'd say. it is how and where trust gets strengthened and bond gets stronger.

You mean 'problem' in the sense that he's got some difficulties of some sort, or problem in the sense that he's a dickhead for asking to borrow money?

Borrowing money? Not comfortable for either party, one person in financial strife, the other feeling under pressure to help... but isn't that what friends and girlfriends and boyfriends are for?

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Sushi

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Posted: Nov 07, 2005 - 09:10 AM

The problem is that it is the second time that he borrowed money from her and he did not mention to pay off for the first time.

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Posted: Nov 07, 2005 - 09:19 PM

mind yer damn business

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Posted: Nov 08, 2005 - 07:18 AM

LOL

Sushi are you are japanese girl?

they seem to be too caring sometimes

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Posted: Nov 08, 2005 - 12:11 PM

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itv1980

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Posted: Nov 08, 2005 - 07:36 PM

Borrowing money from girlfriend, besides the occasional 10rmb or 100rmb to pay for a taxi or small thing and didn't have enough with me, YES. But the next or even the same day she'll have it back.

For a large sum of money I always use the golden rule: Can't pay it, then don't buy it. If really in trouble I'll ask my parents for help and not my love.

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Sushi

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Posted: Nov 09, 2005 - 08:44 AM

My poor friend. Her boyfriend did not pay her back. She was expecting that lending money to her boyfriend would make their relationship get better.

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Posted: Nov 11, 2005 - 08:13 AM

Actually I'm single at the moment Mr. Green

so chance for everyone at present time

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Sushi

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Posted: Nov 15, 2005 - 04:46 PM

I am eating my words. I can not stop my friend being stupid( She broke up with the guy without asking for money back. Then She asked him to get back to her not mentioning the borrowing thing again. What can be worse). Hate myself being clear-minded on other people's relationship.

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