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PopStar

Joined: Apr 09, 2005
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Posted: Dec 12, 2005 - 08:41 PM
Post subject: Dramatic Romance Help Needed Please

This is not a new question here but it's about me, so in a sense it is Smile

But first, I wanted to say that I have grown to really appreciate this forum very much and all of you, the people who make it real. To Michael and his staff and all of you: Thank you. Sometimes living in this city can be stressful and this site really helps take the edge off a tense day. Healthier than the things I drink, smoke and [censored]!

In the past people have discussed romance and most of the posts have been very traditional, which is great. Yet sometimes its fun and more memorable to do something dramatic or off the wall. Thats what I need your help with.

The ball and chain is coming back on 29 December after a 4 week stint abroad and I want to do something dramatic. We missed both of our birthdays together this month along with Christmas Sad

So its going to be a multi-purpose 'event' as well.

Is there anything wildly romantic to do in Shanghai besides just dinners at this hotel, that restaurant, walking along some street, getting a massage together, and so on...?

Maybe you've experienced something quite memorable from your past - maybe you could share it here.

I am wildly romantic but have run out of things to top myself Sad

So get your creative juices flowing to help me get someone elses juices flowing.

oh thats sounds horrible. see. i need help. creative help.

Thank you!

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PopStar

Joined: Apr 09, 2005
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Posted: Dec 13, 2005 - 09:10 AM

sigh.. no romantic shanghai expats Sad

Nathalie25
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Joined: Aug 24, 2004
Posts: 10387
Location: Shanghai

Posted: Dec 13, 2005 - 09:34 AM

bored, are you a chinese or a expat ? ? ? ? ?
if you are chinese , ok try to kiss your gf in cinema,think it is very romantic........at least, my chinese friends they do it with their gf or bf in here.
if you are expat/foreigner, then try to cuddle your girl friend in that bund sightseeing ship in there, think it also very romantic, at least, my foreign friends they do it in here and i see them doing in person, bored, i just sometimes take some very romantic pictures for my foreign friends in this passionate city....... Smile

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frenchlover1999
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Joined: Sep 18, 2004
Posts: 8730

Posted: Dec 13, 2005 - 09:41 AM

Now we get romance advice from Nathalie25?

Quote:

I am wildly romantic but have run out of things to top myself

Ok after all for you Nathalie's advices may not be so bad.

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Magnolia
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Joined: June 01, 2004
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Posted: Dec 13, 2005 - 09:50 AM

hmmmmmm.... something romantic but not cliched?

since "the ball and chain" is arriving back, she probably wouldn't be too keen on leaving the cold weather of shanghai and hopping on a plane for a mini-getaway to an island.

to me, romance can sometimes be equated with effort or thought put into the actions. if you don't want to do the standard fancy dinner what about trying something romantic at home? for example, head over to ikea and buy loads and loads of candles. place them all over the house. have a meal prepared (can have it delivered if you aren't up for cooking it, just have it arrives before she returns home) and a few bottles of wine, with nice glasses. you can even do the slightly-overrated rose petals on the bed trick. plan an evening with things the two of you like to do. perhaps pick up some massage oils and give her a leisurely massage to relax her travel-weary body. fill the bathroom with candles and take a bath or shower together by candlelight. if you have a small stereo, place it in the bathroom for some soft music (or death metal... whatever you two find romantic). have lotions, towels and robes ready. make sure all the heaters are turned on full blast (it is not romantic to shiver).

don't stop when the lights go out. have the next morning planned also. breakfast in bed is usually a winner (although if she is a clean-freak she may object to eating food in bed because of crumbs). perhaps arrange for the ayi to arrive very early that morning, before you wake up, to take care of removing all the candle remnants and such from the night before. let the day unfold by doing something you haven't done together, perhaps a goofy trip to the aquarium followed by lunch in either a favorite restaurant or a quiet, out of the way place.

make arrangements for her to have her hair done (or her nails, whatever) and return home to dress for the evening. go out dancing. not to a club, but somewhere different. if dancing doesn't do it, there may be a show in town. just something different. follow that up with drinks or heading home. can even arrange for a late-night massage at a place that has couples' suites.

none of these are novel ideas as you can tell, but the thought and effort that goes into planning shows.

PS - depending on when her flight arrives, perhaps have a friend ready at the apartment to light all the candles so they are lit when she arrives. you can call him and he can leave when you are three minutes away from entering. it's not terribly romantic to dash around lighting loads of candles (although, if she wants to unwind with a shower after arriving, you can do it while she is doing that).

PPS - since you are not spending christmas together, perhaps decorating the apartment will be a surprise to her.

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