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Tangel
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May 19, 2006 - 02:20 PM |
 
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Hi all,
I will be attending a employee´s wedding this weekend and I am know I am supposed to give a certain amount of money, but i do no know how much.
Anyone have advice?
Thanks,
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Nathalie25
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May 19, 2006 - 02:45 PM |
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600 or 800, cause in china and chinese, 6 & 8 it means lucky & wealthy...... |
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stefos
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May 19, 2006 - 03:00 PM |
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We gave them 600rmb. It really depends on you. Some friends told me they went only 200rmb or 300rmb. Not to be mean but I'm hoping none of my local employees invite us ever again. Money part isn't the problem but the atmostphere was terrible and the dipping the chopsticks in dishes did not work well for me. Hope you had better luck than ours. |
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Magnolia
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May 19, 2006 - 03:03 PM |
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i've usually given 800 or 1888 but it depends on the circumstances. |
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irenexudan
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May 19, 2006 - 03:31 PM |
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i dont think you need to give Hong Bao to them , just buy a gift is ok ma |
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palala
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May 19, 2006 - 03:35 PM |
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i think chinese prefers getting hong bao than getting a gift like what we would do back home. dont let them call us the "stingy white people" or guilao! |
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drummissimo
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May 19, 2006 - 03:38 PM |
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how about paying for their honeymoon?
-- if not, rmb800 should do the trick! |
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irenexudan
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May 19, 2006 - 03:41 PM |
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hey , i am chinese and never call a foreigner that guilao ,ok ? 
that's culture different , give them a gift is not a really bad idea ....
anyway , if i asked to present a wedding party , i will put 1K rmb in the hongbao |
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irenexudan
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May 19, 2006 - 03:42 PM |
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honeymoon ? it's normally cost 10K rmb |
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IgotAquestion
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May 19, 2006 - 04:22 PM |
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Coming from someone who just got married here China I'll offer some examples. Everyone gave Hongbao gifts are nice, if they are what you want, hongbao is a safer way to go from the face point of view. A chinese co-worker of mine attended and gave a gift of 500rmb, a former classmate of my wife chinese (she does very well in trade business) gave 1000rmb, a factory owner whom my wife works with gave 3000rmb. All were generous gifts and all were fitting concidering the financial status of the person who gave them.
-Side note if YOU give 800 and their friend who makes 1/5 what you make gives 800, just something to concider. |
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drummissimo
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May 19, 2006 - 04:28 PM |
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| irenexudan wrote: |
| honeymoon ? it's normally cost 10K rmb |
i was kidding!  |
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irenexudan
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May 19, 2006 - 04:41 PM |
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yeah , i know that must be kidding |
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Scott_Weiland
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May 19, 2006 - 04:46 PM |
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| IgotAquestion wrote: |
Coming from someone who just got married here China I'll offer some examples. Everyone gave Hongbao gifts are nice, if they are what you want, hongbao is a safer way to go from the face point of view. A chinese co-worker of mine attended and gave a gift of 500rmb, a former classmate of my wife chinese (she does very well in trade business) gave 1000rmb, a factory owner whom my wife works with gave 3000rmb. All were generous gifts and all were fitting concidering the financial status of the person who gave them.
-Side note if YOU give 800 and their friend who makes 1/5 what you make gives 800, just something to concider. |
This kind of sums up Chinese culture to me.
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irenexudan
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May 19, 2006 - 04:51 PM |
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| IgotAquestion wrote: |
Coming from someone who just got married here China I'll offer some examples. Everyone gave Hongbao gifts are nice, if they are what you want, hongbao is a safer way to go from the face point of view. A chinese co-worker of mine attended and gave a gift of 500rmb, a former classmate of my wife chinese (she does very well in trade business) gave 1000rmb, a factory owner whom my wife works with gave 3000rmb. All were generous gifts and all were fitting concidering the financial status of the person who gave them.
-Side note if YOU give 800 and their friend who makes 1/5 what you make gives 800, just something to concider. |
This kind of sums up Chinese culture to me.
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then how about in ur hometown ? |
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yu888
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May 19, 2006 - 04:59 PM |
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Shanghai IS his hometown...nobody else wants him 
But seriously, I have attended both friends' weddings (local) and co-workers (not ones i directly manage but still) and the best has been just to present red envelopes since in all honesty, it still is the most practical gift to a newly married couple. As for amounts, my gifts were 1000 for the friends and 800 for the coworkers. |
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palala
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May 21, 2006 - 02:12 AM |
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like your honest and to the point answer - practicality! |
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lazyyorkie
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fortune_nookie
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May 21, 2006 - 07:44 AM |
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6's & 8's work well so the 600/800 suggestion is correct BUT... Figure it is about 3,000 per table of ten with a decent menu so if there are two of you your food alone cost them 600.
I gave 288 US $ to a close friend. 88 did not even cover the food and I don't think 188 works but I am not Chinese. 888 would have been great if I were rich.
I guess it was just a little different giving USD rather than RMB. I went to HSBC, worked with the teller and got all brand new bills. |
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kuldaen
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May 21, 2006 - 08:22 AM |
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One of my friends gave 888RMB for a hongbao. I remember him trying to go to every bank to see if they had any nice 1Yuan notes. took him several banks before he found 6 of them. we then went on an expedition to all the local supermarkets and convenience stores  |
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