LadyofLeisure wrote:Of course I am talking to you, silly!!! What would Suzy teach me?

Oh... maybe I don't want to know! LOL!!!!!

I can knit and crochet and am a Senior Math Teacher if that can help hahahha

I suck at Math Suzy, so I may take you up on that offer...

LadyofLeisure wrote:I suck at Math Suzy, so I may take you up on that offer...

I suck at sucking but not think want to ask for help with that one hahahahha

Oh my...

I was going to add that I could teach her about that because... well you know.... but I thought it might not go over well plus I don't plan on teaching a class in that art form. LOL!!!!

LadyofLeisure wrote:I was going to add that I could teach her about that because... well you know.... but I thought it might not go over well plus I don't plan on teaching a class in that art form. LOL!!!!

Make my mind spin just think how that sort lessons will work hahahaha Think I keep on crochet instead

I run a class in that art form, but I generally only take private pupils for one-on-one tuition, with plenty of very challenging field practice incorporated into the syllabus.

coxaca wrote:I run a class in that art form, but I generally only take private pupils for one-on-one tuition, with plenty of very challenging field practice incorporated into the syllabus.

I'll still stay with crochet thanks lol

coxaca wrote:I run a class in that art form, but I generally only take private pupils for one-on-one tuition, with plenty of very challenging field practice incorporated into the syllabus.

*slaps coxaca* are you turning down 2 for 1?

i never was lucky enough to bed a really really really hot chinese girl. but i was together with nice ones.

usually i meet girls that have something special about them. so i never had the problem with "shallowness". but i always wanted to have a really really really hot one, but don't know where to meet her. any tips? (and i don't mean a country side part time hooker in muse)

but with the nice ones i ran into another question: i'm serious about relationship, which is leading to marriage. but if i look at my friends (western-chinese-marriage) i see a lot of problems. first the obvious ones: 1. wife keeps all the money they make. 2. the ayi and mother-in-law gets to have the children 24/7. and 3. half of the family will be just minimum educated and have strongly lower hygiene standards than me. how can i get serious with such a family perspective?

that's why i thought i can not marry chinese. and then this destroyed my whole dating chinese ambition. but i still long for that super super super hot girl experience. because i never touched one.

thoughts?

dive wrote:but if i look at my friends (western-chinese-marriage) i see a lot of problems. first the obvious ones: 1. wife keeps all the money they make. 2. the ayi and mother-in-law gets to have the children 24/7. and 3. half of the family will be just minimum educated and have strongly lower hygiene standards than me. how can i get serious with such a family perspective

Very true observations. My advice, make it a stipulation of marriage that no parents move in with you if you meet a Chinese girl that wants to marry you. If she won't agree, look for one that will.

dive wrote:thoughts?

If you want a hot Asian girl with a sensible family, try Korea or Japan.

bleepingbleeper wrote:

coxaca wrote:I run a class in that art form, but I generally only take private pupils for one-on-one tuition, with plenty of very challenging field practice incorporated into the syllabus.

*slaps coxaca* are you turning down 2 for 1?

I said "generally". Group classes available on application. Audition compulsory.

KalanStar wrote:

dive wrote:but if i look at my friends (western-chinese-marriage) i see a lot of problems. first the obvious ones: 1. wife keeps all the money they make. 2. the ayi and mother-in-law gets to have the children 24/7. and 3. half of the family will be just minimum educated and have strongly lower hygiene standards than me. how can i get serious with such a family perspective

Very true observations. My advice, make it a stipulation of marriage that no parents move in with you if you meet a Chinese girl that wants to marry you. If she won't agree, look for one that will.

dive wrote:thoughts?

If you want a hot Asian girl with a sensible family, try Korea or Japan.

My husband upset my mother many times by kicking her out when ever she refused to do things 'his western way' when she stayed with us fro a visit. He argued that when he visit them he always follow their ways and let her take control, so she should do same when visit us. Our daughter lives with him full time (I am working away from home these days) but he takes her to visit them during holidays. Seems my mother has settled and accept his western ways these days and is happy he think of them and let daughter ring and visit.

Is that a wonderbra?

Well,as i analyse,there are some reasons to that:
First of all,some CHinese people are just confused about their own hobbies sometimes~believe me.When we say I like sth,it sometimes means that "I love to see it and think about it,but usually have no time or pleasant to play it".I don't know why but--I love piano I've played it since I was 5,but---I haven't played it well since my senior middle school:TOo much study and too little time and a bit laziness

Second of all,It's our habbit that we keep a little distance from people we don't know much.If your GFs are hanging out with you for just about 1 or 2 times,maybe they're more likely to tend to know about you first than showing themselves.So they tend to please you which dosen't means they really don't have opinions.What's more,foreign PEOPLE are so much different from chinese so that they're curious about your Hobbies and LIKES sometimes.

THIRD of all,I can't deny that some Chinese girls are just don't have their own opinions.(THIS IS NOT A COMMON ONE)

Forth,some girls maybe like nightclubs because they 've never been there before and wish somebody accompany them to enjoy it ~they like it because it's new to them!So~

last of all,Chinese girls sometimes tend to "BEAR" more.ONce they don't like something but otherpeople like,they're still willing to do that things together with you~they're happy to do so~

According to me, you may just relaxed down,try not to ask about your GF's hobbies instead invite they to do the things you like,while doing it,ask if they feel good and tell them it's ok "not feeling good".Or let her invite you to do something until you finally get to know each other~

wish the tips may help~

and last

Suzy_Xu wrote:My husband upset my mother many times by kicking her out when ever she refused to do things 'his western way' when she stayed with us fro a visit. He argued that when he visit them he always follow their ways and let her take control, so she should do same when visit us. Our daughter lives with him full time (I am working away from home these days) but he takes her to visit them during holidays. Seems my mother has settled and accept his western ways these days and is happy he think of them and let daughter ring and visit.

Sounds like a smart cookie, your husband. I'm taking notes here.

Apropos of which, Suzy, how did hubby prevent your mother from moving in full-time?

coxaca wrote:Apropos of which, Suzy, how did hubby prevent your mother from moving in full-time?

My parents are small rural farmers so mother could only visit sometimes. We were in Wuhan at the time and village is 2.5 hours away by bus. After that year he take a position in Changzhou so too far for her to travel. We spent a year back there area and daughetr started kindy near them so they see her most days that year before we moved to Suzhou then nearer Shanghai. My mother never been on train etc and not even like travel by bus so she never able visit lol

Mate,
this is a NON-democratic country (so thinking too much may be 'unhealthy', so you can't expect people here to be like back home in terms of personality - let's face it this people have been under somebody shoes for many generations ) and in many ways culturally speaking they are still in the 50's (at least in terms of women role in the society). I think if you date professional girls that have studied overseas it is more likely that they have a little bit more personality because they have seen the 'light', the other ones can be great 'geisha wives' (that so many expats like) but I wouldn't expect much more.
In addition if you are in your 30's and you are dating 18 year old girls, let's face it you don't have much in common with them, it is a 'generational' problem (meaning you are too f*cking old for them) on top of cultural differences [/quote]

ahooo~I think your opinion is some kind of "out".A lot of girls here,not needing to study abroad for a while,do have their own opinions,likes and dislikes,tell right from wrong...and so on...(not deny 50ths existence).It's just they don't express them in straight and open like foreign people.OR that they can't properly express their feelings to foreigners~so~

orangehgz wrote:ahooo~I think your opinion is some kind of "out".A lot of girls here,not needing to study abroad for a while,do have their own opinions,likes and dislikes,tell right from wrong...and so on...(not deny 50ths existence).It's just they don't express them in straight and open like foreign people.OR that they can't properly express their feelings to foreigners~so~

And if many are like me then in our heads we feel we know what to say, but when the words come out, mixed with chinglish and our wrong translations and misunderstanding different cultural meanings, it can make even the smartest of us look rather dumb at timesI Not saying I am a smart or dumb girl, just making a comment hahahah

LadyofLeisure wrote:Coffee is overrated

It is most certainly not, what a despicable thing to say.

^ Sorry I'm anti coffee...

I met someone who destroys all the stereotypes of Chinese women. I'm in love! Wish me luck!

Oh no KS, are you serious? What happened to Korean 4 way? or Japanese sandwich? and the chinese preggie? Either way, good luck man, I hope this time it will work out for you and you stop creating stoopid a$s post on this forum.

^^Of course I'm serious. When have I not been? I've known her 4 months. The past two, we've been getting along better and better and my feelings have frown and grown. She's 22, pretty, smart, and funny. I never expected this in the beginning...

so, there is about 11 years age gap between you two, right?

^^Age is just a number...

lol.. the last few posts just MADE my day... i was kinda depressed with all of the homework...

I was chatting with a collegue the other day. The first sentence when i saw her, I said "Hi Beautiful, How is it going for you today at work". She kicked up a big fuss and started to say that she has worked so long not because of her looks but for her abilities at work, yada yada yada.....(yeah, she is quite pretty, but hey! I am not interested), . It was just a compliment (at least that's what i thought).

I dont know what's wrong with these girls..

KalanStar wrote:^^Of course I'm serious. When have I not been? I've known her 4 months. The past two, we've been getting along better and better and my feelings have frown and grown. She's 22, pretty, smart, and funny. I never expected this in the beginning...

that is how it always starts. the crazy comes later.