Do expats find girls only to have fun?
Do expats find girls only to have fun?
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Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe
Doubt that,many college guys still have more than one gf..thats why im kinda worried.
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Juan_Tamad wrote:You can find out yourself....easy. PM any guys here
They wont tell me if they already have a gf .BAD much haha
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Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe
In general the laowais that marry or take chinese girls more seriously are the old guys (50 and above, who want a 'child bride' - 20 or more years younger than them) the other ones are in 'all you can f0ck mode'.
Obviously there are exceptions to this like everything else but as a rule of thumb this is how it works more less.
A young, good looking laowai is probably only to have 'casual' sex, I wouldn't start ordering a wedding dress if I was you
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You have to be aware that younger guys have an active libido that can drive them to unfaithfulness. Maybe looking for guys just before middle age(like me) is a better idea. We still want to have fun. But we also hear clocks ticking so wedding dresses don't turn us off as much
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The older guys (myself included) are generally already divorced or have been in a longstanding de facto marriage in the past. They have already experienced a long-term relationship with one of their own race, and are much more open to the idea of their next long-term relationship being with someone from a different race.
And all guys, regardless of their age, would - all else being equal - rather have sex with a younger girl than an older one. This may strike many as being sad and pathetic, and perhaps it is, but it's also a simple biological reality.
One other thing for you to consider, Stella: younger guys are usually here for a time-limited visit and have firm plans to move back to their homeland once their tenure in China has expired. Whereas older men needed to have a much firmer prospect for long-term gain in order to bother trying their luck here. Hence they are more committed to staying.
For young guys, China is pu$$y heaven, but a short-term one - and they are in a hurry. For older guys, it's an opportunity to start all over again with a fresh young girl, and they can take their time finding the right one.
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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
a young chinese girl, I'd say, is not very easy to attract a western guy other than by their appearance. If the foundation of the relationship is appearance or sex, it's not likely to sustain. Young guys no matter chinese or westerners are not in a stage of stability. Particularly for those who has wider range of choices in terms of partners, such as the good looking, professional chinese men, or the western guys on a good work contract here. Coming from a liberal culture, they have less constraint on their sexual activities... in conclusion, for chinese girls, if you are not a player, don't sleep early with a western guy until you have a 360 degree picture of his life. That's good for your mental and physical health -- people who had many sex partners have much higher likelihood of carrying sexual transmitted disease, which most chinese girls are not educated by this government at all.
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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe
Doubt that,many college guys still have more than one gf..thats why im kinda worried.
You missed or didn't understand the sarcasm, same as Sheldon Cooper


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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Juan_Tamad wrote:You can find out yourself....easy. PM any guys here
They wont tell me if they already have a gf .BAD much haha
Just assume they do, problem solved

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ZaphodB wrote:We're integrating into the local culture, you should be supporting us.
Will do!Try harder you expats!
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tihZ_hO wrote:StellaLu_0627 wrote:Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe
Doubt that,many college guys still have more than one gf..thats why im kinda worried.
You missed or didn't understand the sarcasm, same as Sheldon Cooper
Yeah maybe..Still working on it lol.
BTW love TBBT
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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Yeah maybe..Still working on it lol.
BTW love TBBT
Me too! Are you up to date with Season 5 or still watching the past seasons?

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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
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I think you are simple brain, so your question is so simple. in the now society such as your brain will easy become victim. of course you could learn from me, I have rich experience to deal with complicate problem.
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tihZ_hO wrote:StellaLu_0627 wrote:Yeah maybe..Still working on it lol.
BTW love TBBT
Me too! Are you up to date with Season 5 or still watching the past seasons?
Im now watching Season Five.Have you watched the latest which Hawking is in it?
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Bobchina wrote:StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
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I think you are simple brain, so your question is so simple. in the now society such as your brain will easy become victim. of course you could learn from me, I have rich experience to deal with complicate problem.
Well maybe.But luckily i havent met any comlicated problems yet.
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tylerdurden wrote:Condesa is basically right, although there are a small proportion of younger laowai guys who are open to the idea of a serious relationship.
The older guys (myself included) are generally already divorced or have been in a longstanding de facto marriage in the past. They have already experienced a long-term relationship with one of their own race, and are much more open to the idea of their next long-term relationship being with someone from a different race.
And all guys, regardless of their age, would - all else being equal - rather have sex with a younger girl than an older one. This may strike many as being sad and pathetic, and perhaps it is, but it's also a simple biological reality.
One other thing for you to consider, Stella: younger guys are usually here for a time-limited visit and have firm plans to move back to their homeland once their tenure in China has expired. Whereas older men needed to have a much firmer prospect for long-term gain in order to bother trying their luck here. Hence they are more committed to staying.
For young guys, China is pu$$y heaven, but a short-term one - and they are in a hurry. For older guys, it's an opportunity to start all over again with a fresh young girl, and they can take their time finding the right one.
well written TD
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tylerdurden wrote:Condesa is basically right, although there are a small proportion of younger laowai guys who are open to the idea of a serious relationship.
The older guys (myself included) are generally already divorced or have been in a longstanding de facto marriage in the past. They have already experienced a long-term relationship with one of their own race, and are much more open to the idea of their next long-term relationship being with someone from a different race.
And all guys, regardless of their age, would - all else being equal - rather have sex with a younger girl than an older one. This may strike many as being sad and pathetic, and perhaps it is, but it's also a simple biological reality.
One other thing for you to consider, Stella: younger guys are usually here for a time-limited visit and have firm plans to move back to their homeland once their tenure in China has expired. Whereas older men needed to have a much firmer prospect for long-term gain in order to bother trying their luck here. Hence they are more committed to staying.
For young guys, China is pu$$y heaven, but a short-term one - and they are in a hurry. For older guys, it's an opportunity to start all over again with a fresh young girl, and they can take their time finding the right one.
Yes you are quite right T..But age gap is also a serious problem to me since im just about to graduate from Uni.
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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Bobchina wrote:StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
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I think you are simple brain, so your question is so simple. in the now society such as your brain will easy become victim. of course you could learn from me, I have rich experience to deal with complicate problem.
Well maybe.But luckily i havent met any comlicated problems yet.
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congratulation, but you still need careful, because you are so simple and weak.
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Bobchina wrote:StellaLu_0627 wrote:Bobchina wrote:StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
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I think you are simple brain, so your question is so simple. in the now society such as your brain will easy become victim. of course you could learn from me, I have rich experience to deal with complicate problem.
Well maybe.But luckily i havent met any comlicated problems yet.
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congratulation, but you still need careful, because you are so simple and weak.
Thank you,I will.
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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
I think the issue is that a lot of Chinese girls (wrongly) believe that (a) dating norms are the same worldwide and (b) they can manipulate guys by having sex with them.
In Western culture, you're free to date/sleep with whomever you want until you DTR. They're not girlfriends; they're just people seeing eachother.
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Is it a "problem"?
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StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
How about Chinese guys, what are they like?
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