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Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Fri Apr 13, 2012 10:48 am

Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby Juan_Tamad » Fri Apr 13, 2012 10:54 am

You can find out yourself....easy. PM any guys here
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby Danielm103 » Fri Apr 13, 2012 10:55 am

If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Fri Apr 13, 2012 11:10 am

Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe


Doubt that,many college guys still have more than one gf..thats why im kinda worried. :(
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Fri Apr 13, 2012 11:11 am

Juan_Tamad wrote:You can find out yourself....easy. PM any guys here


They wont tell me if they already have a gf .BAD much haha
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby ZaphodB » Fri Apr 13, 2012 5:05 pm

We're integrating into the local culture, you should be supporting us.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby condesa » Fri Apr 13, 2012 8:48 pm

Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe


In general the laowais that marry or take chinese girls more seriously are the old guys (50 and above, who want a 'child bride' - 20 or more years younger than them) the other ones are in 'all you can f0ck mode'.

Obviously there are exceptions to this like everything else but as a rule of thumb this is how it works more less.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby feier » Fri Apr 13, 2012 9:24 pm

Well as you know, "girls just wanna have fun". As to say, local women sometimes go along with the game that's being played. It's not as if local guys don't have side action as well.
You have to be aware that younger guys have an active libido that can drive them to unfaithfulness. Maybe looking for guys just before middle age(like me) is a better idea. We still want to have fun. But we also hear clocks ticking so wedding dresses don't turn us off as much
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby Blahh » Fri Apr 13, 2012 9:45 pm

Ok, you may PM me.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby tylerdurden » Fri Apr 13, 2012 10:55 pm

Condesa is basically right, although there are a small proportion of younger laowai guys who are open to the idea of a serious relationship.

The older guys (myself included) are generally already divorced or have been in a longstanding de facto marriage in the past. They have already experienced a long-term relationship with one of their own race, and are much more open to the idea of their next long-term relationship being with someone from a different race.

And all guys, regardless of their age, would - all else being equal - rather have sex with a younger girl than an older one. This may strike many as being sad and pathetic, and perhaps it is, but it's also a simple biological reality.

One other thing for you to consider, Stella: younger guys are usually here for a time-limited visit and have firm plans to move back to their homeland once their tenure in China has expired. Whereas older men needed to have a much firmer prospect for long-term gain in order to bother trying their luck here. Hence they are more committed to staying.

For young guys, China is pu$$y heaven, but a short-term one - and they are in a hurry. For older guys, it's an opportunity to start all over again with a fresh young girl, and they can take their time finding the right one.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby questionmark » Sat Apr 14, 2012 10:47 pm

StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.


a young chinese girl, I'd say, is not very easy to attract a western guy other than by their appearance. If the foundation of the relationship is appearance or sex, it's not likely to sustain. Young guys no matter chinese or westerners are not in a stage of stability. Particularly for those who has wider range of choices in terms of partners, such as the good looking, professional chinese men, or the western guys on a good work contract here. Coming from a liberal culture, they have less constraint on their sexual activities... in conclusion, for chinese girls, if you are not a player, don't sleep early with a western guy until you have a 360 degree picture of his life. That's good for your mental and physical health -- people who had many sex partners have much higher likelihood of carrying sexual transmitted disease, which most chinese girls are not educated by this government at all.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby tihZ_hO » Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:36 am

StellaLu_0627 wrote:
Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe


Doubt that,many college guys still have more than one gf..thats why im kinda worried. :(


You missed or didn't understand the sarcasm, same as Sheldon Cooper


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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby tihZ_hO » Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:37 am

StellaLu_0627 wrote:
Juan_Tamad wrote:You can find out yourself....easy. PM any guys here


They wont tell me if they already have a gf .BAD much haha


Just assume they do, problem solved
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby Algrim » Mon Apr 16, 2012 11:54 pm

Why do so many people just assume this is a one-sided problem?
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby tihZ_hO » Wed Apr 18, 2012 8:35 am

Algrim wrote:Why do so many people just assume this is a one-sided problem?


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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Wed Apr 18, 2012 9:31 am

ZaphodB wrote:We're integrating into the local culture, you should be supporting us.


Will do!Try harder you expats!
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Wed Apr 18, 2012 9:32 am

tihZ_hO wrote:
StellaLu_0627 wrote:
Danielm103 wrote:If the laowai guy is under the age of 34 no, otherwise maybe


Doubt that,many college guys still have more than one gf..thats why im kinda worried. :(


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Postby tihZ_hO » Wed Apr 18, 2012 9:38 am

StellaLu_0627 wrote:Yeah maybe..Still working on it lol.
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Postby Bobchina » Wed Apr 18, 2012 9:44 am

StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.

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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Wed Apr 18, 2012 10:16 am

tihZ_hO wrote:
StellaLu_0627 wrote:Yeah maybe..Still working on it lol.
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Me too! Are you up to date with Season 5 or still watching the past seasons?


Im now watching Season Five.Have you watched the latest which Hawking is in it?
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Postby StellaLu_0627 » Wed Apr 18, 2012 10:17 am

Bobchina wrote:
StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.

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I think you are simple brain, so your question is so simple. in the now society such as your brain will easy become victim. of course you could learn from me, I have rich experience to deal with complicate problem.


Well maybe.But luckily i havent met any comlicated problems yet.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby rickpeck » Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:30 am

tylerdurden wrote:Condesa is basically right, although there are a small proportion of younger laowai guys who are open to the idea of a serious relationship.

The older guys (myself included) are generally already divorced or have been in a longstanding de facto marriage in the past. They have already experienced a long-term relationship with one of their own race, and are much more open to the idea of their next long-term relationship being with someone from a different race.

And all guys, regardless of their age, would - all else being equal - rather have sex with a younger girl than an older one. This may strike many as being sad and pathetic, and perhaps it is, but it's also a simple biological reality.

One other thing for you to consider, Stella: younger guys are usually here for a time-limited visit and have firm plans to move back to their homeland once their tenure in China has expired. Whereas older men needed to have a much firmer prospect for long-term gain in order to bother trying their luck here. Hence they are more committed to staying.

For young guys, China is pu$$y heaven, but a short-term one - and they are in a hurry. For older guys, it's an opportunity to start all over again with a fresh young girl, and they can take their time finding the right one.


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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby StellaLu_0627 » Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:43 am

tylerdurden wrote:Condesa is basically right, although there are a small proportion of younger laowai guys who are open to the idea of a serious relationship.

The older guys (myself included) are generally already divorced or have been in a longstanding de facto marriage in the past. They have already experienced a long-term relationship with one of their own race, and are much more open to the idea of their next long-term relationship being with someone from a different race.

And all guys, regardless of their age, would - all else being equal - rather have sex with a younger girl than an older one. This may strike many as being sad and pathetic, and perhaps it is, but it's also a simple biological reality.

One other thing for you to consider, Stella: younger guys are usually here for a time-limited visit and have firm plans to move back to their homeland once their tenure in China has expired. Whereas older men needed to have a much firmer prospect for long-term gain in order to bother trying their luck here. Hence they are more committed to staying.

For young guys, China is pu$$y heaven, but a short-term one - and they are in a hurry. For older guys, it's an opportunity to start all over again with a fresh young girl, and they can take their time finding the right one.


Yes you are quite right T..But age gap is also a serious problem to me since im just about to graduate from Uni.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby Bobchina » Wed Apr 18, 2012 12:40 pm

StellaLu_0627 wrote:
Bobchina wrote:
StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.

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Well maybe.But luckily i havent met any comlicated problems yet.

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Postby StellaLu_0627 » Wed Apr 18, 2012 1:19 pm

Bobchina wrote:
StellaLu_0627 wrote:
Bobchina wrote:
StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.

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I think you are simple brain, so your question is so simple. in the now society such as your brain will easy become victim. of course you could learn from me, I have rich experience to deal with complicate problem.


Well maybe.But luckily i havent met any comlicated problems yet.

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Thank you,I will. :)
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Postby caisghost » Wed Apr 18, 2012 6:55 pm

StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.


I think the issue is that a lot of Chinese girls (wrongly) believe that (a) dating norms are the same worldwide and (b) they can manipulate guys by having sex with them.

In Western culture, you're free to date/sleep with whomever you want until you DTR. They're not girlfriends; they're just people seeing eachother.
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby wagnett » Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:36 pm

tihZ_hO wrote:
Algrim wrote:Why do so many people just assume this is a one-sided problem?


Exactly


Is it a "problem"?
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Re: Do expats find girls only to have fun?

Postby look2me4guidance » Thu Apr 19, 2012 6:51 am

The "problem" is they are all fake - including the breasts.
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Postby Bobchina » Thu Apr 19, 2012 8:39 am

Really, include hot hole?
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Postby chineseexpatpudong » Thu Apr 19, 2012 11:08 am

StellaLu_0627 wrote:Seems like many laowai have more than one gf at the same time.Do they find chinese girls just to have fun?Do they even take them seriouly?Im really curious about it.


How about Chinese guys, what are they like?
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