Pay, woman, pay!

by **findus** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 8:58 pm

So a Chinese gal in her mid/late-20s that I'd recently randomly met got in touch out of the blue and suggested that we go out for a few drinks. No problem, I say, where do you want to take me out? After some huffing and hawing, she says Ok, we can split the bill. No no, bill splitting ain't friendly, you invited me out, it's your treat, hao ba? Commence even more huffing and hawing, moaning and groaning. She eventually gave in and agreed it was her treat, but she seemed slightly pissed off.

I've been taken out and treated to all sorts many times, but what do a large proportion of Chinese girls have against paying after full-on inviting a guy out? Bit cheeky, no?

by **beautiful_mind0905** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 9:49 pm

Haha, that is why you wait for the guy to invite you out... I offer to split the bill in most cases or if they pay for the first date, I will pay for the second date.

by **PG-30** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 10:00 pm

i see.....thats why she insisted on having street food,fried stinky tofu, as dinner on our second date.

by **beautiful_mind0905** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 10:01 pm

Haha, sorry about that. Funds must have been limited back then

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by **PG-30** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 10:09 pm

its ok, we had bland buns and boiled water on the first date.

by ***amimi*** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 6:47 am

Idiot...Did you two bang?

by **sienna** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 7:35 am

i paid for everything yesterday, but that was because he only had a piece of bread and i ate a whole plate, mwahahahaha
but it's ok concerning he paid for all my drinks 9 months ago in a place called Attica.

by **beautiful_mind0905** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:38 am

PG-30 wrote:its ok, we had bland buns and boiled water on the first date.

After promising the world... I will pick the place for the third date and it will be your turn to pay

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by **PG-30** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:45 am

*amimi* wrote:Idiot...Did you two bang?

uhhh...i was joking, so it was not real, sorry to let you down....btw your name is "a tit" in chinese, which makes you look sooo smart.

by **PG-30** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:49 am

beautiful_mind0905 wrote:After promising the world... I will pick the place for the third date and it will be your turn to pay !

haha, I have to break up with her now

by **lemongrass** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:02 pm

So the dates are all about "who is paying" huh? Not to mention the big salary gap between local people and expat package?!

Sounds to me that you are just being a cheapskate.

by **seabreeze98** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:15 pm

So what about 2 persons (a foreign guy and a Chinese girl) with almost similar level of income? Or girl earning more?

by **CK1** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:21 pm

You are obviously dating women from poor backgrounds.

Try going up an income bracket or too.

by **TheDudeAbides** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:38 pm

They're not used to it because all the pussy-whipped local guys and the older fat fugly expats who need to flaunt a bit of money to pick up have spoiled them. That said there are still plenty of girls who will treat you.

by **daxingxing** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 3:55 pm

how do western women see this? do you pay for dates? i am very much curious..

by **GungHo** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 8:09 pm

Why make things so complicated? If the girl is not worth a few of your RMB then just make a polite refusal.

by **SnappySammy** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:44 am

beautiful_mind0905 wrote:
PG-30 wrote:its ok, we had bland buns and boiled water on the first date.

After promising the world... I will pick the place for the third date and it will be your turn to pay !

Do you have a lot of third dates

by **maries** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 9:51 am

It's not a big deal!when you want to pay it,then pay it.You dont want to pay it then ,he will pay it.....If no one wants to pay ,then dont go out....

by **Nathalie25** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 11:43 am

just willing to pay what I will order in somewhere, yeah, over~~~~~~~~~~~

by **Natali** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:40 pm

i can imagine that all guys here will throw tomatoes on me now, but i think that 99% of all time a guy should pay. In other topics on this forum (discussing advantages of marriage) most of the guys who are happy with their wives were saying that biggest part of the work in a house is done by their women, also women care about children much more. And guys totally support it. So why paying should be equal?
In the situation above i would probably offer to pay the bill, if i invite a guy out. But if he starts to ask for this himself and insist on me paying, i would probably never even say "hi" to this guy again, and definitely i would never respect him as a man. Thanks God there are still plenty of guys in this world, who opens the door in the car, takes my coat, lights my cigarette and always insists on paying the bill. I am not a golden digger and I earn enough to pay for all myself, but this kind of relationship is not for me. I want to feel myself a woman when am out with a guy.
It is very strange, here guys are always complaining that White girls are too emancipated, but when it comes to paying the bill, guys support emancipation very much. Double standards I guess

by **DonCoyote** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:49 pm

Natali wrote:It is very strange, here guys are always complaining that White girls are too emancipated, but when it comes to paying the bill, guys support emancipation very much. Double standards I guess

i will loose my good reputation, but she's making a point here

by **julianna** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:58 pm

Natali wrote:
I want to feel myself a woman when am out with a guy.

by **julianna** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:59 pm

julianna wrote:
Natali wrote:
I want to feel myself a woman when am out with a guy.

100% agree !!!

by **PG-30** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 4:51 pm

i wanna feel you two too

by **findus** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:23 pm

Natali wrote:i can imagine that all guys here will throw tomatoes on me now, but i think that 99% of all time a guy should pay. In other topics on this forum (discussing advantages of marriage) most of the guys who are happy with their wives were saying that biggest part of the work in a house is done by their women, also women care about children much more. And guys totally support it. So why paying should be equal?

We're talking about a date, not a married couple.

Natali wrote:In the situation above i would probably offer to pay the bill, if i invite a guy out. But if he starts to ask for this himself and insist on me paying, i would probably never even say "hi" to this guy again, and definitely i would never respect him as a man.

But you'd be expecting the guy to pay, right, even if you offered?

Natali wrote:Thanks God there are still plenty of guys in this world, who opens the door in the car, takes my coat, lights my cigarette

What does that have to do with paying a bill?

Natali wrote: and (he) always insists on paying the bill. I am not a golden digger and I earn enough to pay for all myself

Natali wrote:I want to feel myself a woman when am out with a guy.
It is very strange, here guys are always complaining that White girls are too emancipated, but when it comes to paying the bill, guys support emancipation very much. Double standards I guess

I don't think (m)any guys here disagree with full woman's rights and equality, quite on the contrary, so no double standards. Simply, if you invite a guy out, be a good girl foot the bill, mmkay? :wink:

by **Nathalie25** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 6:41 pm

Thank God, I never invited anyone to out for date,yeah, over~~~~~~~

by **lucar** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:10 pm

julianna wrote:
Natali wrote:
I want to feel myself a woman when am out with a guy.

You and me both sister. But, a little bit harder for me I think.

by **julianna** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:15 pm

Lucky me! None of my European male friends wanted me to pay even one coffee....hihihi

by **daxingxing** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:24 pm

insisting paying the bill is a gesture - you don't necessarily end up paying but you have to offer - otherwise you are so not attractive as a man.
i think women who date such type of men usually don't plan to have any future with them.

by **CIA** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:53 pm

Personally I think that women that have a 'man's gotta pay for everything for me' get what they deserve in the end (whether that's treated like a house slave or sex object).

Here's where the bullets start flying from the gallery about chivalry this and earning power that.... :roll:

Pay, woman, pay!

Pay, woman, pay!

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