For the sake of people researching the move to Shanghai, here a bundle of links to recent forum posts on the subject. Lots of info and many questions you have are covered. If, after browsing these threads, you still don't have an answer, feel free to post a specific question.
There is lots of info on this forum about nearly every aspect of moving to Shantghai and a lot that applies to moving to China. Here are a handful of recent threads that talk about some of the questions asked on relocation.
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1540101.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1538601.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1538596.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1537565.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1540382.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1529491.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1523045.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1496159.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1517092.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/post1491387.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/moving-in-t127673.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/moving-to-shanghai-from-europe-t127405.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/expat-wife-t127778.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/moving-with-family-need-some-info-t127586.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/how-is-this-package-t126832.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/coming-to-shanghai-with-2-5-yr-old-t127162.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/moving-to-shanghai-t122922.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/where-to-live-in-shanghai-please-help-t125893.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/moving-to-shanghai-t125847.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/what-would-you-select-t125369.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/housing-and-schooling-in-pudong-t123993.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/shanghai-beijing-guangzhou-shenzhen-what-are-pros-cons-t124760.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/are-we-being-idiots-t122290.html
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/phpbbforum/moving-to-shanghai-pudong-t121614.html
Here is a good article on getting ready to move if y ou have not seen it yet
http://www.shanghaiexpat.com/node/6777
And so the expat communities renews itself ever



